so the girl and i split a few weeks ago, now she tells me that she wants our relationship to be the way it used to be. i told her she'll have to wait and see what happens. what should have i said, what should i say now?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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There is a reason you broke up in the first place. save yourself the heartache, and dont get back together, chances are you'll break up again.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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that comment is SOOOO AFC its ridiculous.
Be a bigger man, and shrug it off. Dont let her have that kind of power over you.
Be a bigger man, and shrug it off. Dont let her have that kind of power over you.
If you do that, what makes you any better than her? It makes you WORSE.Originally posted by icallug
alright thanks guys, but the reason she broke up with me is because she had feelings for someone else
i wanna play this chick so bad, and get her back
Just because she made a boneheaded move doesn't give you the all-clear to do the same. She hurt you, but where does hurting HER back, lead you? All that it does is make her feel bad, and makes her want to retaliate at you.
In the end you BOTH end up feeling terrible, and now you've wasted however many weeks or months of your life on this whole situation
It's a vicious cycle best avoided, my friend.