so the girl and i split a few weeks ago, now she tells me that she wants our relationship to be the way it used to be. i told her she'll have to wait and see what happens. what should have i said, what should i say now?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wanting me back
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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There is a reason you broke up in the first place. save yourself the heartache, and dont get back together, chances are you'll break up again.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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that comment is SOOOO AFC its ridiculous.
Be a bigger man, and shrug it off. Dont let her have that kind of power over you.
Be a bigger man, and shrug it off. Dont let her have that kind of power over you.
If you do that, what makes you any better than her? It makes you WORSE.Originally posted by icallug
alright thanks guys, but the reason she broke up with me is because she had feelings for someone else
i wanna play this chick so bad, and get her back
Just because she made a boneheaded move doesn't give you the all-clear to do the same. She hurt you, but where does hurting HER back, lead you? All that it does is make her feel bad, and makes her want to retaliate at you.
In the end you BOTH end up feeling terrible, and now you've wasted however many weeks or months of your life on this whole situation
It's a vicious cycle best avoided, my friend.