"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bvbidd

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You saw the title..

I really want to know if you guys had to go through the same hell as I did.

You know when they give shy guys advice that worst that could happen won't actually happen? Well it did for me. And I'm not ugly.

I was always shy and freaked out from talking to strangers because I think they'd act all weirded out, boy was I right. I've had em laugh in my face, ignore me, and even run away screaming. lol

What have your worst experiences been?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you're no different

Don't think you're any different, we've ALL been there.
My worst moments are from cold approaches, when the girls give me the cold shoulder. I can deal with hostile girls, but indifference sucks.
If you have a bad experience, give it a day. You should be able to laugh it off by then.
 

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Well I don't really know any worst rejections because I get the typical no, ignore, etc that everyone gets. But probably the worst blowout was last year I had to pretend I was on a date with a girl so her cousin can sneak food to her for free.

When I was sitting down I couldn't eat all I was doing was drinking, then I started eating here and there. I was so fuvking nervous lol, then after we started talking and my ass was trying to qualify to her. (Everytime I look back I suddenly remember a movie where jet li says "I'm capable" and the way he was looking really looked like he had low value that is how I was) I started Shaking like crazy and she asked me why am I shaking and I told her because I am not used to talking to girls infront of my friends.

Slowly and Slowly I was digging a hole in that set, basically by time it was 5 mins I just ejected because I was done I ended it by asking if she had a BF lol. It was good that I approached but now when I look back I crack up cause I can't believe I was shaking, and actually trying to qualify to her like she had more value than me. Funny thing is when I first started speaking I was confident but when I seen her huge cleavage I turned into a little b!tch.

At that time I used to do the Hi opener even though now that I realized it I was actually already opened because her cousin wanted me to act like her date I could have done so much roleplaying and C&F in that position but I didn't know about all that back then.

It just goes to show that when you get better you get so happy that your actually getting it and actually improving because I know 4 years from now I'm going to be cracking up at everything I do now.
 

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Oh, I crack up at it now when looking back and even if it still happens it's funny.. but some days I'm feeling down I just know that some guys just had it easy and never had girls run away screaming from them. (Those were probally the worst times.. indifference was a little easier to handle) lol .. Some days it's not just a joke anymore.

But as for guys that had to start from the bottom, I'm sure they've all gone through girls that pretended they didn't exist or just go hostile on ya. And your right, hostile is the easiest because you can just say something back lol it's still a conversation.
 

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I have no time to wallow in passed rejections. Life is too ****ing short to cry over some i'll fated attempt at trying to convince some bítch what a great catch you are.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Yeah uh guy, if only your actions didn't have cosequences you'd always be able to be in that state.

Some days you can't. You know it.
You don't have selective memory. :rolleyes:
 

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actions/cosequences?

It's all game, you lose some, you win some.
 

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Buckle Your Seatbelts!

One day I was sitting next to a bunch of hot girls joking about forming a girlband.

I jumped up and said, "you guys should be different and make a metal band!"

They laughed.

I said, "I can just see you all headbanging away."

Then I gave a headbanging demonstration,

Here its best to mention I had a cold at the time and my nose was all runny.

A long strand of snot came out of my nostril, was whipped back by my thrashing and splattered over my shaved skull.

The girls screamed and ran in horror!

I kid you not!

:rockon:

JJ
 

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Jay Jay said:
One day I was sitting next to a bunch of hot girls joking about forming a girlband.

I jumped up and said, "you guys should be different and make a metal band!"

They laughed.

I said, "I can just see you all headbanging away."

Then I gave a headbanging demonstration,

Here its best to mention I had a cold at the time and my nose was all runny.

A long strand of snot came out of my nostril, was whipped back by my thrashing and splattered over my shaved skull.

The girls screamed and ran in horror!

I kid you not!

:rockon:

JJ

Oh man! One time I totally got punked by this one chick. She basically told me that she was gonna whup my ass in front of hella people. Not that she could, but I wasn't quite expecting that out of her and I was speechless. Everybody said I was scared. lol!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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yo bro at big hollywood parties, i see chicks say that to old dudes who hit on them
 
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