"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bvbidd

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You saw the title..

I really want to know if you guys had to go through the same hell as I did.

You know when they give shy guys advice that worst that could happen won't actually happen? Well it did for me. And I'm not ugly.

I was always shy and freaked out from talking to strangers because I think they'd act all weirded out, boy was I right. I've had em laugh in my face, ignore me, and even run away screaming. lol

What have your worst experiences been?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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you're no different

Don't think you're any different, we've ALL been there.
My worst moments are from cold approaches, when the girls give me the cold shoulder. I can deal with hostile girls, but indifference sucks.
If you have a bad experience, give it a day. You should be able to laugh it off by then.
 

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Well I don't really know any worst rejections because I get the typical no, ignore, etc that everyone gets. But probably the worst blowout was last year I had to pretend I was on a date with a girl so her cousin can sneak food to her for free.

When I was sitting down I couldn't eat all I was doing was drinking, then I started eating here and there. I was so fuvking nervous lol, then after we started talking and my ass was trying to qualify to her. (Everytime I look back I suddenly remember a movie where jet li says "I'm capable" and the way he was looking really looked like he had low value that is how I was) I started Shaking like crazy and she asked me why am I shaking and I told her because I am not used to talking to girls infront of my friends.

Slowly and Slowly I was digging a hole in that set, basically by time it was 5 mins I just ejected because I was done I ended it by asking if she had a BF lol. It was good that I approached but now when I look back I crack up cause I can't believe I was shaking, and actually trying to qualify to her like she had more value than me. Funny thing is when I first started speaking I was confident but when I seen her huge cleavage I turned into a little b!tch.

At that time I used to do the Hi opener even though now that I realized it I was actually already opened because her cousin wanted me to act like her date I could have done so much roleplaying and C&F in that position but I didn't know about all that back then.

It just goes to show that when you get better you get so happy that your actually getting it and actually improving because I know 4 years from now I'm going to be cracking up at everything I do now.
 

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Oh, I crack up at it now when looking back and even if it still happens it's funny.. but some days I'm feeling down I just know that some guys just had it easy and never had girls run away screaming from them. (Those were probally the worst times.. indifference was a little easier to handle) lol .. Some days it's not just a joke anymore.

But as for guys that had to start from the bottom, I'm sure they've all gone through girls that pretended they didn't exist or just go hostile on ya. And your right, hostile is the easiest because you can just say something back lol it's still a conversation.
 

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I have no time to wallow in passed rejections. Life is too ****ing short to cry over some i'll fated attempt at trying to convince some bítch what a great catch you are.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yeah uh guy, if only your actions didn't have cosequences you'd always be able to be in that state.

Some days you can't. You know it.
You don't have selective memory. :rolleyes:
 

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actions/cosequences?

It's all game, you lose some, you win some.
 

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Buckle Your Seatbelts!

One day I was sitting next to a bunch of hot girls joking about forming a girlband.

I jumped up and said, "you guys should be different and make a metal band!"

They laughed.

I said, "I can just see you all headbanging away."

Then I gave a headbanging demonstration,

Here its best to mention I had a cold at the time and my nose was all runny.

A long strand of snot came out of my nostril, was whipped back by my thrashing and splattered over my shaved skull.

The girls screamed and ran in horror!

I kid you not!

:rockon:

JJ
 

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Jay Jay said:
One day I was sitting next to a bunch of hot girls joking about forming a girlband.

I jumped up and said, "you guys should be different and make a metal band!"

They laughed.

I said, "I can just see you all headbanging away."

Then I gave a headbanging demonstration,

Here its best to mention I had a cold at the time and my nose was all runny.

A long strand of snot came out of my nostril, was whipped back by my thrashing and splattered over my shaved skull.

The girls screamed and ran in horror!

I kid you not!

:rockon:

JJ

Oh man! One time I totally got punked by this one chick. She basically told me that she was gonna whup my ass in front of hella people. Not that she could, but I wasn't quite expecting that out of her and I was speechless. Everybody said I was scared. lol!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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yo bro at big hollywood parties, i see chicks say that to old dudes who hit on them
 
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