Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Wanted to get some opinions about being a single dad.

cactus3178

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I'm 26, and I have a 7 year old daughter who I have full legal custody of and love to death. My last girlfriend (not my daughter's mom) had no problem with this fact, and her and my daughter got along famously. Long story short, things didn't work out after 3.5 years, and I wonder, what does the general population of ladies think about dating guys with a kid?

I love my daughter more than anything, and I would never so much as think about putting a girlfriend/fiance ahead of her. But the fact remains, I'm wondering how much I'm limiting myself in the dating world.

Thanks, gents.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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WaterTiger

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Well, you are limiting women to the criteria of "Is this some one I'd want to be around my very impressionable child?" There will be women who won't want to be involved with an "instant" family situation, and other women (like me) who will be very impressed that you have sole custody of your child.

Don't hide the fact you have a child. Let them know in the first few dates that you have custody and she comes first. This will quickly weed out the flakes, which are a potential pain in the a$$ anyway.

Some women will find it very sexy! You'll be able to snag every hot MILF in your town by flashing your daughter's school pic!

Just use your superior male logic and don't worry, you'll do fine!
 

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Thanks, I think your right, especially about weeding out the flakes. Most girls I know are pretty cool about this type of situation in their personal lives.
 

penkitten

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havent you noticed most chicks your age that are single already have a child and are in the same shoes you are in?
i think its great you have custody of your daughter...
best of luck to you
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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