"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Wanted to get some opinions about being a single dad.

cactus3178

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I'm 26, and I have a 7 year old daughter who I have full legal custody of and love to death. My last girlfriend (not my daughter's mom) had no problem with this fact, and her and my daughter got along famously. Long story short, things didn't work out after 3.5 years, and I wonder, what does the general population of ladies think about dating guys with a kid?

I love my daughter more than anything, and I would never so much as think about putting a girlfriend/fiance ahead of her. But the fact remains, I'm wondering how much I'm limiting myself in the dating world.

Thanks, gents.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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WaterTiger

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Well, you are limiting women to the criteria of "Is this some one I'd want to be around my very impressionable child?" There will be women who won't want to be involved with an "instant" family situation, and other women (like me) who will be very impressed that you have sole custody of your child.

Don't hide the fact you have a child. Let them know in the first few dates that you have custody and she comes first. This will quickly weed out the flakes, which are a potential pain in the a$$ anyway.

Some women will find it very sexy! You'll be able to snag every hot MILF in your town by flashing your daughter's school pic!

Just use your superior male logic and don't worry, you'll do fine!
 

cactus3178

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Thanks, I think your right, especially about weeding out the flakes. Most girls I know are pretty cool about this type of situation in their personal lives.
 

penkitten

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havent you noticed most chicks your age that are single already have a child and are in the same shoes you are in?
i think its great you have custody of your daughter...
best of luck to you
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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