So I am a manager and she is an employee that I have to supervise. She had a boyfriend for a long time and we always flirted, but they ended it and now she is on the rebound. We flirt now more than ever but I'm not sure how to ask her out. It's against work policy to date another employee, but I've never been one to follow rules too well anyway lol. How can I ask her out?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Want to ask out coworker..how?
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Iceberg
Master Don Juan
You already have a somewhat friendly relationship with her. Just invite her out for drinks and see where it goes.
Asking a person out doesnt necessarily have to sound like "Want to go on a date?"
It's more like "Let's grab a drink."
Throughout the course of the night, you can try to escalate some kino and see if she's receptive.
Asking a person out doesnt necessarily have to sound like "Want to go on a date?"
It's more like "Let's grab a drink."
Throughout the course of the night, you can try to escalate some kino and see if she's receptive.
email - it's the best way. I've dated lots of girls from work. Try to get her personal email using company email if she starts replying.
Beware though - I had one girl start dating another guy from our office after I broke up with her - it drove me crazy and really made me depressed to hear her giggling in his office.
Beware though - I had one girl start dating another guy from our office after I broke up with her - it drove me crazy and really made me depressed to hear her giggling in his office.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
I got fired for dating a coworker. It truly sucked, and I felt horrible losing my job over something as stupid as a workplace fling. Plus, you're her supervisor which is massive NO-NO...it's got harassment all over it if things go south.
Unless your job is easily replaceable, just be friends and that's it. I understand the thrill of getting some workplace strange, but if your company has a policy against it, then it's not worth the risk.
*if you're going to go through with it, do like Iceberg said and just ask her out for a drink after work; every post-work drink with a chick always ends up with a hook-up
Unless your job is easily replaceable, just be friends and that's it. I understand the thrill of getting some workplace strange, but if your company has a policy against it, then it's not worth the risk.
*if you're going to go through with it, do like Iceberg said and just ask her out for a drink after work; every post-work drink with a chick always ends up with a hook-up
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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oneboy21
Senior Don Juan
A Big No-No for dating co-workers
she may be using you right now for some rebound, so don't do it.
If you really want to impress her you can arrange a get together with all your colleagues at a bar or any place and you can run your game.
No Emails please, they can be dangerous, no IM's too.
If she asks you out that's a different story.
she may be using you right now for some rebound, so don't do it.
If you really want to impress her you can arrange a get together with all your colleagues at a bar or any place and you can run your game.
No Emails please, they can be dangerous, no IM's too.
If she asks you out that's a different story.
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