So I am a manager and she is an employee that I have to supervise. She had a boyfriend for a long time and we always flirted, but they ended it and now she is on the rebound. We flirt now more than ever but I'm not sure how to ask her out. It's against work policy to date another employee, but I've never been one to follow rules too well anyway lol. How can I ask her out?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Want to ask out coworker..how?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
You already have a somewhat friendly relationship with her. Just invite her out for drinks and see where it goes.
Asking a person out doesnt necessarily have to sound like "Want to go on a date?"
It's more like "Let's grab a drink."
Throughout the course of the night, you can try to escalate some kino and see if she's receptive.
Asking a person out doesnt necessarily have to sound like "Want to go on a date?"
It's more like "Let's grab a drink."
Throughout the course of the night, you can try to escalate some kino and see if she's receptive.
email - it's the best way. I've dated lots of girls from work. Try to get her personal email using company email if she starts replying.
Beware though - I had one girl start dating another guy from our office after I broke up with her - it drove me crazy and really made me depressed to hear her giggling in his office.
Beware though - I had one girl start dating another guy from our office after I broke up with her - it drove me crazy and really made me depressed to hear her giggling in his office.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
I got fired for dating a coworker. It truly sucked, and I felt horrible losing my job over something as stupid as a workplace fling. Plus, you're her supervisor which is massive NO-NO...it's got harassment all over it if things go south.
Unless your job is easily replaceable, just be friends and that's it. I understand the thrill of getting some workplace strange, but if your company has a policy against it, then it's not worth the risk.
*if you're going to go through with it, do like Iceberg said and just ask her out for a drink after work; every post-work drink with a chick always ends up with a hook-up
Unless your job is easily replaceable, just be friends and that's it. I understand the thrill of getting some workplace strange, but if your company has a policy against it, then it's not worth the risk.
*if you're going to go through with it, do like Iceberg said and just ask her out for a drink after work; every post-work drink with a chick always ends up with a hook-up
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Jeffst1980
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Better start sending out your resume, while you're at it.
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if you value your job, don't dip your pen in the company ink.
oneboy21
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A Big No-No for dating co-workers
she may be using you right now for some rebound, so don't do it.
If you really want to impress her you can arrange a get together with all your colleagues at a bar or any place and you can run your game.
No Emails please, they can be dangerous, no IM's too.
If she asks you out that's a different story.
she may be using you right now for some rebound, so don't do it.
If you really want to impress her you can arrange a get together with all your colleagues at a bar or any place and you can run your game.
No Emails please, they can be dangerous, no IM's too.
If she asks you out that's a different story.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.