So I am a manager and she is an employee that I have to supervise. She had a boyfriend for a long time and we always flirted, but they ended it and now she is on the rebound. We flirt now more than ever but I'm not sure how to ask her out. It's against work policy to date another employee, but I've never been one to follow rules too well anyway lol. How can I ask her out?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Want to ask out coworker..how?
- Thread starter dice
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
You already have a somewhat friendly relationship with her. Just invite her out for drinks and see where it goes.
Asking a person out doesnt necessarily have to sound like "Want to go on a date?"
It's more like "Let's grab a drink."
Throughout the course of the night, you can try to escalate some kino and see if she's receptive.
Asking a person out doesnt necessarily have to sound like "Want to go on a date?"
It's more like "Let's grab a drink."
Throughout the course of the night, you can try to escalate some kino and see if she's receptive.
email - it's the best way. I've dated lots of girls from work. Try to get her personal email using company email if she starts replying.
Beware though - I had one girl start dating another guy from our office after I broke up with her - it drove me crazy and really made me depressed to hear her giggling in his office.
Beware though - I had one girl start dating another guy from our office after I broke up with her - it drove me crazy and really made me depressed to hear her giggling in his office.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
I got fired for dating a coworker. It truly sucked, and I felt horrible losing my job over something as stupid as a workplace fling. Plus, you're her supervisor which is massive NO-NO...it's got harassment all over it if things go south.
Unless your job is easily replaceable, just be friends and that's it. I understand the thrill of getting some workplace strange, but if your company has a policy against it, then it's not worth the risk.
*if you're going to go through with it, do like Iceberg said and just ask her out for a drink after work; every post-work drink with a chick always ends up with a hook-up
Unless your job is easily replaceable, just be friends and that's it. I understand the thrill of getting some workplace strange, but if your company has a policy against it, then it's not worth the risk.
*if you're going to go through with it, do like Iceberg said and just ask her out for a drink after work; every post-work drink with a chick always ends up with a hook-up
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Jeffst1980
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Better start sending out your resume, while you're at it.
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if you value your job, don't dip your pen in the company ink.
oneboy21
Senior Don Juan
A Big No-No for dating co-workers
she may be using you right now for some rebound, so don't do it.
If you really want to impress her you can arrange a get together with all your colleagues at a bar or any place and you can run your game.
No Emails please, they can be dangerous, no IM's too.
If she asks you out that's a different story.
she may be using you right now for some rebound, so don't do it.
If you really want to impress her you can arrange a get together with all your colleagues at a bar or any place and you can run your game.
No Emails please, they can be dangerous, no IM's too.
If she asks you out that's a different story.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.