"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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want to approach a girl at work..

lollerbate

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so i work at a computer lab at my school, and there's this cute chick who comes in maybe once or twice a week.

i've been wanting to approach for a while now but it's kind of hard since:
a.) it's kind of inappropriate for me to do that during work
b.) it'd be awkward for me to just go up and talk to her out of nowhere.. since we have no previous acquaintances
c.) bad setting, since excessive talking isn't allowed in the lab, and there's a ton of people around at all times
d.) i'm a *****

i've been waiting for her to ask me for computer help so i would have an excuse to talk to her.. (i'm a tech) but she seems pretty computer savvy, so my options are pretty limited. :whistle:

any suggestions?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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First workplace relationships are a no no but that should not stop you from simply walking past her and say hello, makem a point of saying hello to other people around engage in some small talk, after this happens a few times she will become relaxed with you then you will find the opportunities will open up.
 

lollerbate

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Augie said:
First workplace relationships are a no no but that should not stop you from simply walking past her and say hello, makem a point of saying hello to other people around engage in some small talk, after this happens a few times she will become relaxed with you then you will find the opportunities will open up.
Well, she doesn't work here. She comes in to use the computers as a student from time to time.
 
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