"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Want some advice after initial contact with new girls

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I ended a 7 year LTR 2 years ago and have been dating since. I have dropped online dating as of a year ago. I had good success with online dating, better than 50% sexual activity with girls I met.

Since that time i've either recycled girls I met from online dating or tried to line up dates with girls I meet IRL. IRL i'm getting numbers, but i'm not having much success lining up dates. I'm losing girls in texting, or they are not responding to my first contact after getting their number.

I usually just go straight for a time and place to meet up.
ex) "Hi, it's (My Name) we met at xxx and I want to take you out (place and time)"

Sometimes I'll call.

Problem is i'm getting lost after this. Either they'll agree, and then flake or text me to death and then flake.

The last 8 numbers i've got have gone no where.

The last girl was a black girl and after setting up the date she hit me up with

"So you like chocolate, lol"

I'm white. I've slept with and dated a few black girls.

I said, "We're gonna find out".

"Woa, you've never talked to a black girl before?"

.... come on

"I'll see you (at date location)"

This bugged her out.


But basically, whereas online when I went right for the first date without talking to much, and it worked. With girls i'm meeting IRL i'm getting sucked into them wanting to know more about me and then they are disappearing.

After you line up the date, and they hit you up, do you just not respond until the date, deflect, **** pic?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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sazc

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most females online are thirsty as fvck. I'm finding that out as I do the online thing and men are shocked that I'm not salivating in my crotch when they say "Hey, you are beautiful, let's spend time together tomorrow".

My point is that you cant compare OLD to IRL when it comes to females. Again, most females online are (embarrassingly) thirsty.
 
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