Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yeah. It’s always on us as men. They’re perfect in their own eyes.Move on. There is no making things work and getting her back etc etc...
It didn't work out the first time, so why would you think it would work out a second time around? If you made mistakes in the relationship recognize them, and don't make those same mistakes again.
I didn’t tell her I didn’t want marriage. I just wasn’t ready yet. And she’s still by herself. I have a spy. The guy she had call me pretending to be her bf, was actually a family member. I recently found out. She’s still just working 70 hours a week and not seeing anyone or fvcking anyone. She’s just wasting time. She could’ve had a husband (me) by now. I literally just needed to get thru the 4th quarter which is my busiest time of year.I am with Toddz. We are all human, we all make mistakes. She wasn't perfect, and you probably had lots of GOOD points.
It is a loss, true - but a loss to both parties......she wanted marriage, you didn't. You didn't get strongarmed into it, wouldn't be, so she decided to go find someone who would be.
Good. Let her go. Better for both of you.
Now you go No Contact and focus on yourself. You never reach out again. She may contact you later, she may not. If she does, it is because she realizes what she lost. You were your own man, following your dreams. No shame in that.
BEEN on to the next. Well... next(s) lol Just feels empty. Nice distraction thoughGo no contact do your own thing. If she thinks she made a mistake, she will be in touch. If not, on to the next
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She is fvcking someone else guaranteed.I didn’t tell her I didn’t want marriage. I just wasn’t ready yet. And she’s still by herself. I have a spy. The guy she had call me pretending to be her bf, was actually a family member. I recently found out. She’s still just working 70 hours a week and not seeing anyone or fvcking anyone. She’s just wasting time. She could’ve had a husband (me) by now. I literally just needed to get thru the 4th quarter which is my busiest time of year.
A little, yeah.Feeling much grounded now @daproest1 ?
Takes time I guess.I think you miss the point - the idea is not to JUST date other women. The idea is to FORGET and GIVE up on THIS woman.
When you truly no longer care, then you are free.
100% certainty.Dude, get over your dreams. She is spreading legs for someone for sure.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I was supposed to go in with the group. They got there before me. My boy (who knows her) texted me that he had told her that he invited me. So when I got there and noticed the group was already inside, I figured going in to meet them was ok.I really don't know what were you counting on by going there alone.
It was my idea for her to work the door there part time (twice a week) while she was in nursing school. Yeah I know. Bad decision. Anyway No. The boys weren’t HER friends. They’re mine. The guy I refered to, he and I are close. He hasn’t spoken to her in years. We always meet up about business pretty consistently. He used to date a friend of hers years ago.She's a HB10 according to you that's also the door lady of a strip club...and you're claiming that she's not fvcking someone else.
Probably even got most of that information from her male buddies.
And you even went out with her male buddies who chose that venue on her work night.
Ex was right not to let you in.
I think Ex was right to dump ur noob ass.
Go and read up the DJ Bible again, this time even when you sleep, dream of the DJ Bible.
You said that friend who is actually her friend 1st....It was my idea for her to work the door there part time (twice a week) while she was in nursing school. Yeah I know. Bad decision. Anyway No. The boys weren’t HER friends. They’re mine. The guy I refered to, he and I are close. He hasn’t spoken to her in years. We always meet up about business pretty consistently. He used to date a friend of hers years ago.
Like they knew eachother before I knew him. Because he was dating a friend of hers. But once me and him linked up, we became friends. A lot in common etc etc. They weren’t FRIENDS friends. Me and him were. He played the part once I left the club to get info for me.You said that friend who is actually her friend 1st....
That makes it her friend.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You think an Ex girlfriend will open up and tell her secrets (abt the uncle) to a true friend of her Ex boyfriend ?Like they knew eachother before I knew him. Because he was dating a friend of hers. But once me and him linked up, we became friends. A lot in common etc etc. They weren’t FRIENDS friends. Me and him were. He played the part once I left the club to get info for me.
She didn’t know he and I were friends like that. i Never really brought him up.You think an Ex girlfriend will open up and tell her secrets (abt the uncle) to a true friend of her Ex boyfriend ?
She only told him because he's her friend 1st and because he's giving her information about you.
So they're sharing info about ur noob ass and I bet ur friend who is actually not ur friend is trying to get into her pants.
Man, how can you be this naive?
You claim ur Ex still can't get over you and acting full retard ?She didn’t know he and I were friends like that. i Never really brought him up.
I didn’t show any emotion. I felt nothing. It was weird.This thread is golden and a prime example why you should never entertain even the mere presence of an ex. Your ex will be bitter to you on her fvcking death bed. And it wont matter if you've seen her in the last minute or the past 50 years. She will always be bitter with you because you broke up and in her mind it can never be her fault. You haven't achieved indifference yet, it will come.
This is the true way to actually "get an ex back." Indifference. Literal indifference means a complete reset on everything.
Any other emotion she is able to provoke from you is based in fear.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.