http://deadspin.com/5251547/a-special-balls-deep-message-to-the-class-of-2009
Now, talk about how to do it YOUR way, if you've actually done it.
Now, talk about how to do it YOUR way, if you've actually done it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Want an average life when you grow up? Here..
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
but wait, there is more!
http://deadspin.com/5015813/a-special-balls-deep-message-to-the-class-of-2008#c6171094
I'll throw the line - you have to work hard. NOW. while you are young. while you have the energy.
dont have kids
dont get married until 30's
dont get addicted to drugs
put in your time NOW and your life should not suck. this is me peraphrasing dozens of smart successful people i've met
http://deadspin.com/5015813/a-special-balls-deep-message-to-the-class-of-2008#c6171094
I'll throw the line - you have to work hard. NOW. while you are young. while you have the energy.
dont have kids
dont get married until 30's
dont get addicted to drugs
put in your time NOW and your life should not suck. this is me peraphrasing dozens of smart successful people i've met
Lastly, this guy I actually know personally, and he has done more fun things than... 99% of people here myself included. Seriously, read his book if you don't believe me.
in any case, here is a link to his address to college kids, if he was to give one.
IT IS AMAZING. PDF format.
his site is http://philalawyer.net if you wanted to read more. which you will.
in any case, here is a link to his address to college kids, if he was to give one.
IT IS AMAZING. PDF format.
his site is http://philalawyer.net if you wanted to read more. which you will.
Fantastic Mr. Fox
Don Juan
I wish I wasn't such a lazy bastard over the last year. 2009 sucked. Time to get my @$$ in gear and get out there 
Thanks for the post. Insightful. Humorous. Glorious.
Thanks for the post. Insightful. Humorous. Glorious.
omkara
Senior Don Juan
wow, and I thought not having a girlfriend was bad. Of course things are going to end up like this if you are cynical and don't find meaning in anything. Then what is the point of doing anything? This is why it is helpful to gain some perspective before walking down the more conventional path. Then you know why you are doing it all and how to do it properly hopefully (e.g. don't let your kids do whatever they want and come screaming into the room at 6 A.M.)
This also shows how college is really an aberration. Eventually we have to come back to cold, hard reality. Hell, even if you try to stay in college, it's not the same when you get older. People talk about how great college is, and how there is so much action. Well, not for everyone. For a lot of people it's more like, being around a lot of attractive young girls and not being able to f*** them. I'd rather just not be around them at all. I don't live in a dorm, I don't know anyone in this area of the country (or my home town anymore, lol), and I just transferred in to graduate in a year. So it's really not a social thing anymore. In spite of trying to live like a college kid perpetually, I've been forced to move on. It's not like I'm going to be hanging out with the 19 year old kids in my English class. They are too dumb and materialistic anyway. I'm glad I'm going to graduate so I can be around more thoughtful people, instead of hearing about how "dude, I got soooo drunk last night!"
This also shows how college is really an aberration. Eventually we have to come back to cold, hard reality. Hell, even if you try to stay in college, it's not the same when you get older. People talk about how great college is, and how there is so much action. Well, not for everyone. For a lot of people it's more like, being around a lot of attractive young girls and not being able to f*** them. I'd rather just not be around them at all. I don't live in a dorm, I don't know anyone in this area of the country (or my home town anymore, lol), and I just transferred in to graduate in a year. So it's really not a social thing anymore. In spite of trying to live like a college kid perpetually, I've been forced to move on. It's not like I'm going to be hanging out with the 19 year old kids in my English class. They are too dumb and materialistic anyway. I'm glad I'm going to graduate so I can be around more thoughtful people, instead of hearing about how "dude, I got soooo drunk last night!"
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Metaphysical
Senior Don Juan
that's a really f$$ked up way to look at life
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
think I'll have my sons read it