http://deadspin.com/5251547/a-special-balls-deep-message-to-the-class-of-2009
Now, talk about how to do it YOUR way, if you've actually done it.
Now, talk about how to do it YOUR way, if you've actually done it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Want an average life when you grow up? Here..
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
but wait, there is more!
http://deadspin.com/5015813/a-special-balls-deep-message-to-the-class-of-2008#c6171094
I'll throw the line - you have to work hard. NOW. while you are young. while you have the energy.
dont have kids
dont get married until 30's
dont get addicted to drugs
put in your time NOW and your life should not suck. this is me peraphrasing dozens of smart successful people i've met
http://deadspin.com/5015813/a-special-balls-deep-message-to-the-class-of-2008#c6171094
I'll throw the line - you have to work hard. NOW. while you are young. while you have the energy.
dont have kids
dont get married until 30's
dont get addicted to drugs
put in your time NOW and your life should not suck. this is me peraphrasing dozens of smart successful people i've met
Lastly, this guy I actually know personally, and he has done more fun things than... 99% of people here myself included. Seriously, read his book if you don't believe me.
in any case, here is a link to his address to college kids, if he was to give one.
IT IS AMAZING. PDF format.
his site is http://philalawyer.net if you wanted to read more. which you will.
in any case, here is a link to his address to college kids, if he was to give one.
IT IS AMAZING. PDF format.
his site is http://philalawyer.net if you wanted to read more. which you will.
Fantastic Mr. Fox
Don Juan
I wish I wasn't such a lazy bastard over the last year. 2009 sucked. Time to get my @$$ in gear and get out there 
Thanks for the post. Insightful. Humorous. Glorious.
Thanks for the post. Insightful. Humorous. Glorious.
omkara
Senior Don Juan
wow, and I thought not having a girlfriend was bad. Of course things are going to end up like this if you are cynical and don't find meaning in anything. Then what is the point of doing anything? This is why it is helpful to gain some perspective before walking down the more conventional path. Then you know why you are doing it all and how to do it properly hopefully (e.g. don't let your kids do whatever they want and come screaming into the room at 6 A.M.)
This also shows how college is really an aberration. Eventually we have to come back to cold, hard reality. Hell, even if you try to stay in college, it's not the same when you get older. People talk about how great college is, and how there is so much action. Well, not for everyone. For a lot of people it's more like, being around a lot of attractive young girls and not being able to f*** them. I'd rather just not be around them at all. I don't live in a dorm, I don't know anyone in this area of the country (or my home town anymore, lol), and I just transferred in to graduate in a year. So it's really not a social thing anymore. In spite of trying to live like a college kid perpetually, I've been forced to move on. It's not like I'm going to be hanging out with the 19 year old kids in my English class. They are too dumb and materialistic anyway. I'm glad I'm going to graduate so I can be around more thoughtful people, instead of hearing about how "dude, I got soooo drunk last night!"
This also shows how college is really an aberration. Eventually we have to come back to cold, hard reality. Hell, even if you try to stay in college, it's not the same when you get older. People talk about how great college is, and how there is so much action. Well, not for everyone. For a lot of people it's more like, being around a lot of attractive young girls and not being able to f*** them. I'd rather just not be around them at all. I don't live in a dorm, I don't know anyone in this area of the country (or my home town anymore, lol), and I just transferred in to graduate in a year. So it's really not a social thing anymore. In spite of trying to live like a college kid perpetually, I've been forced to move on. It's not like I'm going to be hanging out with the 19 year old kids in my English class. They are too dumb and materialistic anyway. I'm glad I'm going to graduate so I can be around more thoughtful people, instead of hearing about how "dude, I got soooo drunk last night!"
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Metaphysical
Senior Don Juan
that's a really f$$ked up way to look at life
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
think I'll have my sons read it