"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wanna use the 3 second rule but you don't have the BALLS??? Here's a way that works!

Starriol

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(By the way, the 3 seconds rule says that you MUST approach a girl between 3 seconds of noticing her in order to avoid hesitating and feeling nervous and you gain by showing her you got BALLS and go for what you want. That makes you more desirable.)

It's simple and concrete.
I made a pact with myself, everytime I don't use the 3 seconds rule, I give money to someone who seems to need it. You know, some women with children that look hungry, someone who really needs it.

That way, if I don't do the world good by sharing the goodies (myself :D !) with the ladies, I'm forced to do another kind of good, and I lose money.

I'm honest, I'm not using the 3 sec rule everytime I see a hot chick and she's approchable, but my rate is MUCH higher in approches/non aproaches and it keeps going up!

By the way, each time I don't approach is 25 cents. I'm waiting to get somewhere around $5 to make it worth it.

This helps me out in being compromised with myself.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If it works, more power to you.

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That sounds like a good idea. I'm thinking about using the 3 sec rule but I usually stall and start thinking about what to say aside from the typical "Hello", How ya doin'?" or "What's your name?". I know a lot of people reccomend using a simple basic approach but it kinda seems like it would be awkward sometimes. I mean how would you feel if some guy walked up to you and said "Hey guys, my name is Soandso,who are you?" Also, if I only give myself 3 sec's I have no idea what I would say afterwards to "create value" or whatever you wanna call that thing that makes people interested in continuing to talk to you.

P.s. I hear a lot of people talk about cold-reading. Is there a place I can get some of those concepts for free
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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For a moment I thought you were gonna be like "check it out. Let me introduce you all to THE TWO AND A HALF SECONDS RULE". :p


Originally posted by Starriol
everytime I don't use the 3 seconds rule, I give money to someone who seems to need it. You know, some women with children that look hungry, someone who really needs it.
I can just picture a guy going to one of the really skinny-looking model-type chicks holding a $5 in his hand, sayin "Here, buy yourself a sandwich".
 

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Re: Re: Wanna use the 3 second rule but you don't have the BALLS??? Here's a way that

Originally posted by Gonzalo
For a moment I thought you were gonna be like "check it out. Let me introduce you all to THE TWO AND A HALF SECONDS RULE". :p




I can just picture a guy going to one of the really skinny-looking model-type chicks holding a $5 in his hand, sayin "Here, buy yourself a sandwich".
It might work.
 

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I can just picture a guy going to one of the really skinny-looking model-type chicks holding a $5 in his hand, sayin "Here, buy yourself a sandwich
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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I once did same. For every hot chick I could have approached, but didn't, I decided to do 5 sit ups and 5 push ups.

Well, the system sort of fell apart when I realized that this will make me die from exaustion. :)

Just approach. And if you don't, then you must have had a good reason. :) No use feeling guilty - just approach the next one.

That's to be alpha - you don't have to explain yourself to anyone, even yourself.
 
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