"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dimehair

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I'm 17 and a junior in high school. Whether or not girls like me is not my problem. I can usually pick up the signs (smile-stare, stare, quick 'hi' and turn around). But for some reason, I can't take it anywhere past that. "She'll be there tomorrow," I'll think when I'm in a good mood. Or, when I'm depressed, "It's not like I know what to do anyway (where to take her, how to ask)." Does anyone else have this problem?

BTW, the only good date I can think of is bowling (but I'm a terrible bowler- 50's). Are there any other good ideas?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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Dimehair said:
BTW, the only good date I can think of is bowling (but I'm a terrible bowler- 50's). Are there any other good ideas?
Mini golf is usually cheap and easy, especially popular if you're younger. Are there any cool spots near you that you can check out? I took this girl to a big waterfall right by here and went on a hike. Besides gas, the whole thing was free and beats the hell out of dinner and a movie.
 

It's-Me

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Dimehair said:
I'm 17 and a junior in high school. Whether or not girls like me is not my problem. I can usually pick up the signs (smile-stare, stare, quick 'hi' and turn around). But for some reason, I can't take it anywhere past that. "She'll be there tomorrow," I'll think when I'm in a good mood. Or, when I'm depressed, "It's not like I know what to do anyway (where to take her, how to ask)." Does anyone else have this problem?

BTW, the only good date I can think of is bowling (but I'm a terrible bowler- 50's). Are there any other good ideas?
I'm in the same situation, and it's winter here.

I can either go to the mall, movies (girls are tired of that sh1t I guess - not really a good first date), ice skating (if she can skate), that's about it...
 

Huffman

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We had that Date Idea thread some time ago... however the search function doesn't give any good results :(
 

lalahaha

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take her ice skating even if she can't skate!! you just help her up every time she falls ;)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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