B-Lemond
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Discuss.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Walking Fast vs. Walking Slow
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I really don't think it matters that much as long as you don't go to either extreme (walking REALLY fast or REALLY slow, which are both bad).
Talking fast vs talking slow is more interesting I think.
Most will tell you to talk slow with long pauses. I find to have more success talking fast with lots of energy behind it. It makes you look really excited to be alive that way.
Talking fast vs talking slow is more interesting I think.
Most will tell you to talk slow with long pauses. I find to have more success talking fast with lots of energy behind it. It makes you look really excited to be alive that way.
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Francisco d'Anconia
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WTF??!! 
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The general recommendation seen here "walk slowly" must be taken carefully. Speed isn't the crucial point, it's determination. I often get smiles when I walk with above-average speed, making powerful steps. It looks very goal-oriented, like you have a plan, which is sexy. Try it.
If you walk slowly, you have to be totally confident and relaxed, or you'll look rather lazy than cool
If you walk slowly, you have to be totally confident and relaxed, or you'll look rather lazy than cool
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Walk slowly, or saunter.
I always walk fast, and in public, its seen as nerdy or spastic. So when I'm out I have to purposely slow myself down. Especially when with a woman, the slow compassionate walk is the way to go.
I always walk fast, and in public, its seen as nerdy or spastic. So when I'm out I have to purposely slow myself down. Especially when with a woman, the slow compassionate walk is the way to go.
Francisco d'Anconia
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:crackup:Hitman10000 said:
:crackup:Tomatoes
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Agreed :woo:Hitman10000 said:
Posts like this are just going to far.....
Sarge On!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
diablo
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Good grief.
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