B-Lemond
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Discuss.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Walking Fast vs. Walking Slow
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I really don't think it matters that much as long as you don't go to either extreme (walking REALLY fast or REALLY slow, which are both bad).
Talking fast vs talking slow is more interesting I think.
Most will tell you to talk slow with long pauses. I find to have more success talking fast with lots of energy behind it. It makes you look really excited to be alive that way.
Talking fast vs talking slow is more interesting I think.
Most will tell you to talk slow with long pauses. I find to have more success talking fast with lots of energy behind it. It makes you look really excited to be alive that way.
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Francisco d'Anconia
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WTF??!! 
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The general recommendation seen here "walk slowly" must be taken carefully. Speed isn't the crucial point, it's determination. I often get smiles when I walk with above-average speed, making powerful steps. It looks very goal-oriented, like you have a plan, which is sexy. Try it.
If you walk slowly, you have to be totally confident and relaxed, or you'll look rather lazy than cool
If you walk slowly, you have to be totally confident and relaxed, or you'll look rather lazy than cool
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Walk slowly, or saunter.
I always walk fast, and in public, its seen as nerdy or spastic. So when I'm out I have to purposely slow myself down. Especially when with a woman, the slow compassionate walk is the way to go.
I always walk fast, and in public, its seen as nerdy or spastic. So when I'm out I have to purposely slow myself down. Especially when with a woman, the slow compassionate walk is the way to go.
Francisco d'Anconia
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:crackup:Hitman10000 said:
:crackup:Tomatoes
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Agreed :woo:Hitman10000 said:
Posts like this are just going to far.....
Sarge On!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
diablo
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Good grief.
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