B-Lemond
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Discuss.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Walking Fast vs. Walking Slow
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I really don't think it matters that much as long as you don't go to either extreme (walking REALLY fast or REALLY slow, which are both bad).
Talking fast vs talking slow is more interesting I think.
Most will tell you to talk slow with long pauses. I find to have more success talking fast with lots of energy behind it. It makes you look really excited to be alive that way.
Talking fast vs talking slow is more interesting I think.
Most will tell you to talk slow with long pauses. I find to have more success talking fast with lots of energy behind it. It makes you look really excited to be alive that way.
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Francisco d'Anconia
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WTF??!! 
ThreeStorms
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The general recommendation seen here "walk slowly" must be taken carefully. Speed isn't the crucial point, it's determination. I often get smiles when I walk with above-average speed, making powerful steps. It looks very goal-oriented, like you have a plan, which is sexy. Try it.
If you walk slowly, you have to be totally confident and relaxed, or you'll look rather lazy than cool
If you walk slowly, you have to be totally confident and relaxed, or you'll look rather lazy than cool
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Walk slowly, or saunter.
I always walk fast, and in public, its seen as nerdy or spastic. So when I'm out I have to purposely slow myself down. Especially when with a woman, the slow compassionate walk is the way to go.
I always walk fast, and in public, its seen as nerdy or spastic. So when I'm out I have to purposely slow myself down. Especially when with a woman, the slow compassionate walk is the way to go.
Francisco d'Anconia
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:crackup:Hitman10000 said:
:crackup:Tomatoes
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Agreed :woo:Hitman10000 said:
Posts like this are just going to far.....
Sarge On!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
diablo
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Good grief.
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