I’ll also add too that even when I’m in a relationship, I always have an ejection plan. Even if things are going smoothly. My antennas are always up for any negative signs in the relationship. So when I even get a sniff that it’s going downhill I’ll either just do the slow pull away or just wait for them to dump me ( I understand doing the dumping is the way to go is the consensus) but at that point I simply don’t care. When I’m still invested in the relationship, and a dumping comes out of the blue, I’m still ready for it and usually just go along with it, because I know there’s nothing I can say or do to change their mind, and if that’s how they feel, I do not want to change their mind, I’ll respect thier decision regardless. It sometimes feels like a gift and curse mindset. It’s always good to be prepared for the worst ESPECIALLY with relationships, but at the same time my antennas are always kinda up so I can be on edge at times.