You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
so what are you implying here?A 6'3 comes black guy in at the exact same time as a 5'4 Korean girl and she is that friendly with him no hesitation?
Did he follow her from the train/street into the coffee shop?
Possibly. They met on the train or something and she flirted him and said "I'm meeting this guy, come and see what he is about."
She didn't like my look or age and the black saved her?
Possibly.
Is she that friendly with everyone?
Possibly. This girl was laughing and giving this 6'4 black guy her name and high fives. But I'm thinking, if I'm at Starbucks and a pretty girl comes and squeezes next to me and flirts that hard, I would be like "What the hell are you doing?"
What is the deal and what would you have done?
do you happen to live in the hood? no? then you won't see many pimps or crackwh0resIs he her pimp?
Possibly. They acted like they didn't know each other at all at all is a perfect cover. Young Asian girl dressed like that, it was kind of getting dark outside and she confirmed the coffee shop address twice. Maybe I've been watching too many movies but it was too much coincidence not to be set up.
she didn't recognize OP on sight so it's possible that she thought the tall black man could've been her dateIt's definitely a mark against her. She should have said something to the effect of "thank you, but I'm waiting for a date". She has crap boundaries.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.