"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Walked out on a blind date

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Let's be honest @Trump. She saw you, and did not acknowledge you. You are extremely insecure from all the recent rejections you have been receiving lately. Ergo, you assumed she wasn't interested, so you left.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A 6'3 comes black guy in at the exact same time as a 5'4 Korean girl and she is that friendly with him no hesitation?
so what are you implying here?

that because she's a 5'4 woman she must be cowardly/introverted/shy/mean?

is it a race thing? should she not be friendly to black people because you expect asians to be racist?

men get intimidated by 6'3, women get turned on by it. that's the difference in perspective here
 

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Did he follow her from the train/street into the coffee shop?

Possibly. They met on the train or something and she flirted him and said "I'm meeting this guy, come and see what he is about."

She didn't like my look or age and the black saved her?

Possibly.

Is she that friendly with everyone?

Possibly. This girl was laughing and giving this 6'4 black guy her name and high fives. But I'm thinking, if I'm at Starbucks and a pretty girl comes and squeezes next to me and flirts that hard, I would be like "What the hell are you doing?"

What is the deal and what would you have done?

bruh. she's never met you and you expect her to be closed off to all other guys who talk to her?

Is he her pimp?

Possibly. They acted like they didn't know each other at all at all is a perfect cover. Young Asian girl dressed like that, it was kind of getting dark outside and she confirmed the coffee shop address twice. Maybe I've been watching too many movies but it was too much coincidence not to be set up.
do you happen to live in the hood? no? then you won't see many pimps or crackwh0res
 

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OP is obv racist, look at his username 'Trump'. He obv thinks all black guys are thugs and criminals, turn off Fox News dude.
 

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It's definitely a mark against her. She should have said something to the effect of "thank you, but I'm waiting for a date". She has crap boundaries.
she didn't recognize OP on sight so it's possible that she thought the tall black man could've been her date
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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As far as the pimp theory, I doubt that a prostie would give her number to your aunt. Plus, a prostie would have approached you and not ignored you. They don't want to lose business. I'm guessing it was a regular girl.

The fact is, guys move in quickly on lone wolf women. That is exactly what the tall dude did. Was he eyeing her as she walked in the coffee shop? Possibly.

What I don't know for sure is why she ignored you. As discussed, she either wasn't attracted to you and completely ignored you (a bytch move, but plausible), or she GENUINELY did not think that you were you.

Did you tell her what you looked like on the phone? Did you text her to say, "I'm at the coffee shop. I'm right next to the counter; see you in a bit"?

Don't have to answer that. Just food for thought.
 
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