You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
so what are you implying here?A 6'3 comes black guy in at the exact same time as a 5'4 Korean girl and she is that friendly with him no hesitation?
Did he follow her from the train/street into the coffee shop?
Possibly. They met on the train or something and she flirted him and said "I'm meeting this guy, come and see what he is about."
She didn't like my look or age and the black saved her?
Possibly.
Is she that friendly with everyone?
Possibly. This girl was laughing and giving this 6'4 black guy her name and high fives. But I'm thinking, if I'm at Starbucks and a pretty girl comes and squeezes next to me and flirts that hard, I would be like "What the hell are you doing?"
What is the deal and what would you have done?
do you happen to live in the hood? no? then you won't see many pimps or crackwh0resIs he her pimp?
Possibly. They acted like they didn't know each other at all at all is a perfect cover. Young Asian girl dressed like that, it was kind of getting dark outside and she confirmed the coffee shop address twice. Maybe I've been watching too many movies but it was too much coincidence not to be set up.
she didn't recognize OP on sight so it's possible that she thought the tall black man could've been her dateIt's definitely a mark against her. She should have said something to the effect of "thank you, but I'm waiting for a date". She has crap boundaries.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.