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Walked out on a blind date

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Curious to hear thoughts on this one.

My Aunt met this young Asian girl, who was her friends, at a coffee shop and got her number for me. She knew I was a bit older than her but apparently didn't care at all. Never seen her, was told she was decent looking. Sent a text and coffee up for next day. She was pretty enthusiastic on the text. She confirmed the place of the coffee shop twice by text.

Got there 15 min early facing the entrance. Browsing my phone when 10 min later a girl walks in. 90% sure its her. Dressed decent, a little too biker chick with long boots. Glances at me like any normal person walking in and is about the sit at the table across from me but doesn't. Goes and order a coffee instead. 6'3 black guy walks in behind her as she orders the coffee. She walks away from the counter to grab sugar and black guy says "your coffee is ready" or something and she goes back and grabs it.

Now she sits at bar stool not close to me with her coffee looking through her phone. Maybe 3 min later after he orders his coffee the black guy comes and squeezes in the bar stool beside her, she has move hers over a bit. There is no one beside them. He starts talking to her and talking and talking to her. Introducing himself shaking hands with her and what not. I can make out a few sentences here and there but not exactly what they are saying. He is talking very well and she is semi laughing. She starts telling him her name and how to spell it, etc. Then after a while she says "I'm actually waiting for someone" and looks around but doesn't look at me or anything.

6:10 pm I got up and left. I'm pretty pissed off and thinking what the hell was that? She texts around 6:15. "I am here, where are u?" Didn't' respond. Calls me around 6:30 pm I didn't respond.

Is he her pimp?

Possibly. They acted like they didn't know each other at all at all is a perfect cover. Young Asian girl dressed like that, it was kind of getting dark outside and she confirmed the coffee shop address twice. Maybe I've been watching too many movies but it was too much coincidence not to be set up.

Did he follow her from the train/street into the coffee shop?

Possibly. They met on the train or something and she flirted him and said "I'm meeting this guy, come and see what he is about."

She didn't like my look or age and the black saved her?

Possibly.

Is she that friendly with everyone?

Possibly. This girl was laughing and giving this 6'4 black guy her name and high fives. But I'm thinking, if I'm at Starbucks and a pretty girl comes and squeezes next to me and flirts that hard, I would be like "What the hell are you doing?"

What is the deal and what would you have done?
 
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

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I will say that she was in the wrong. As a female going on a bind date, if you know the gentlemen whom is approaching you it's not your bind date, you pleasantly excuse yourself from the situation.

However, you say she looked around, saw you, and didn't consider that you could be her bind date. This indicates that you were not her type, otherwise she would have checked with you.
 

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This seems a bit paranoid. When she entered and glanced, you should have responded instantly... as in snapped out of detached observation mode.
 
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I am confused.

When she walked in, why did you just say her name so she knew it was you sitting there?

Doesnt make sense. You dropped the ball on this one.
 

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A few observations from an outsider:

Height
@Trump, I've read in other threads you talking about 6'4" basketball players getting all the game or swooping in on a branch. Do you have a height issue? If so, you got to get over that. I'm not even north of 6'0" yet I've learned to accept that fate and work on other areas of my life to feel secure.

Paranoia
Also doing a Q&A analysis on your blind date that you walked out on shows a little paranoia like @ChristopherColumbus mentioned. It's important to be self-aware and aware of our surroundings for social intelligence, just don't over-analyze every little detail. Enjoy the element you're in. Do you normally hang out at coffee houses when not on dates? Look more comfortable and chill out a little here.

Race
As @That_dude mentioned, this shouldn't be an issue. If you were threatened by this smooth guy coming in and swooping on your blind date, you looked insecure and more so if you were bothered by the color of his skin. You got to get over that as well.

AMOG
You've been on this site for years and I can imagine you have read many threads about a DJ getting AMOG'd or losing a set. A Don Juan knows how to assess the situation and adapt. I wouldn't have remained silent as this guy sat down with his coffee next to her. If you did recognize her and she was your blind date, go up to introduce yourself to her then the guy next. Befriend them and deliver a smooth line to isolate her from him. A few good things will happen if done correctly: you'll convey confidence, you'll assert that you have higher social intelligence, she'll have higher respect for you and that will give you a strong impression before the date starts.

Fun
I've also read in other of your posts that you talk about a fun factor when out on dates, work that angle in here. This was an excellent opportunity to showcase that you're the fun outgoing guy. You shouldn't be threatened by this guy who chatted up your blind date. Disarm him and go about having a fun date. If she checks out, game on. If you don't like her, then you've screened her out of earning a second date. ;)
 
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You were both in the wrong. I have a feeling she knew it was you and you for some readon didn't go for the goal and say... "Hi, are you looking for someone?"

Don't beat yourself up though, I hate it when big black guys F things up for me, but this was mostly on you and like 5% on her and 5% on Bubba.
 

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A 6'3 comes black guy in at the exact same time as a 5'4 Korean girl and she is that friendly with him no hesitation? Wow, you guys are fairly friendly and I guess I'm in the wrong. I'm at Starbucks and a model comes up behind me at the exact same time, orders coffee, sits next to me, flirts that hard, I would not be that friendly. I would be thinking ''what is the angle? What do you want?'

I think sacz is right. I wasn't her type. I'm thinking she wasn't 100% my type either because I've been on dates before where I've introduced myself quickly and this one I didn't.

As for AMOG, I guess I should have went over there and introduced myself and been smooth. Maybe I didn't want to lose life and limb over a girl I didn't know.
 

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A 6'3 comes black guy in at the exact same time as a 5'4 Korean girl and she is that friendly with him no hesitation? Wow, you guys are fairly friendly and I guess I'm in the wrong. I'm at Starbucks and a model comes up behind me at the exact same time, orders coffee, sits next to me, flirts that hard, I would not be that friendly. I would be thinking ''what is the angle? What do you want?'

I think sacz is right. I wasn't her type. I'm thinking she wasn't 100% my type either because I've been on dates before where I've introduced myself quickly and this one I didn't.

As for AMOG, I guess I should have went over there and introduced myself and been smooth. Maybe I didn't want to lose life and limb over a girl I didn't know.
You're paranoid, never heard such a dumb theory like this, the guy could have just followed her cause he wanted to game her, you decided to watch like some tool and run away scared convincing yourself that your life was in danger lol. You being her type is irrelevant, do you have to be some girls 'type' to get her interested in you? Hell no, ugly ass dudes would be getting nothing if that were the case, follow resilient's advice next time a similar situation occurs and stop making excuses.
 

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Let's back up: What is your aunt doing getting phone numbers for you??? I find this hilarious! That in and of itself would be enough to turn off 99.99% of all women out there.
 

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She was probably shy and acting like she hasnt seen you

She was finding you hot if she saw you in the cofee shop, texted you and then call you right after

If she was a prostitute who care's you're not forced to pay for anything

By not talking to her, you will never know
 

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The most beta thread ever, cant approach a girl literally there just for you...
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

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I am confused.

When she walked in, why did you just say her name so she knew it was you sitting there?
I think I was half not in the mood, half didn't like her look.

Other dates, usually on weekend afternoons, I quickly introduce myself. This one was weekday, after work.

But if she is that flirty with a 6'4 black guy she doesn't even know when she has an appointment with me, what is she going to do if we start dating and go to a restaurant, and she is actually attracted to a 6'4 waiter? She would sleep with him before our date even finished.

Brutal.
 

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I think I was half not in the mood, half didn't like her look.

Other dates, usually on weekend afternoons, I quickly introduce myself. This one was weekday, after work.

But if she is that flirty with a 6'4 black guy she doesn't even know when she has an appointment with me, what is she going to do if we start dating and go to a restaurant, and she is actually attracted to a 6'4 waiter? She would sleep with him before our date even finished.

Brutal.
Yeah as if women sleep with every guy they casually respond to in a friendly manner when they approach, gtfoh with that nonsense.
 

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Yeah as if women sleep with every guy they casually respond to in a friendly manner when they approach.
No No.

Women are just extremely extremely flirtatious and friendly and give their phone number and names with 18 seconds of meeting with 6'4 black guys who aggressively approach them in coffee shops at night.

But they never casually sleep with guys they are attracted to. That's nonsense.
 

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The guy who wrote this thread is a creep. No wonder she went for dude o_O:D
 

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No No.

Women are just extremely extremely flirtatious and friendly and give their phone number and names with 18 seconds of meeting with 6'4 black guys who aggressively approach them in coffee shops at night.

But they never casually sleep with guys they are attracted to. That's nonsense.
You seem to be extremely focused on the fact he's black, saw your theory that he's her pimp lmao. Dude you're a wuss no need to hide it, your auntie set you up for a date and you couldn't handle competition. She knows jack sh*t about you, remember it's a f*cking blind date, why wouldn't she keep her options open. Had you actually shown up and talked to her you might have been able to gauge what type of person she is and possibly clicked but you got butthurt and scared and left lmao
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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