“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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wait_out

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This metaphor about learning to surf helped me re-conceptualize a lot of my thoughts about the game in 2011, in a positive way. Posted for my future reference, and for any like-minded souls out there.

1) There will always be more waves. Most important. You might miss every wave you tried for. The ocean might go flat for days. But there will always be more waves. Always.

2) If you're not in the lineup, you don't get a wave. You can watch from the beach if you want. But you won't catch anything.

3) Once the wave is gone, let it go. You get one chance. If it's over, turn around and wait for the next wave. Don't waste your energy chasing it into the beach. It won't work.

4) Learn to accept it will sometimes be painful. Getting washed sucks. You can get held under. Your leash might snap. You might get cut on the reef, or get a fin chop. You can only decide if you love surfing, more than you hate getting wiped out by a nasty wave. It's your choice. Crashing gracefully and coming up laughing will make your life easier.

5) It's all about building momentum. If you can't step on the gas, the wave will always pass you by. Learning to read waves consistently, and be in the right place, at the right time, is meaningless unless you have the paddle power to accelerate. At some point, you need to commit and make your move. No exceptions.

6) Learn to be patient. The ocean is still beautiful, even when there are no waves to be seen. Profit from the moment. You might see a sea turtle. Or if you're unlucky, a shark. Appreciate what you've got, while you still have it. Your life will be better if you focus on what's there, rather than what's lacking.

7) The wave lets you ride it. Surfing is a mutual act. You can get closed out unexpectedly. The wave may die out without warning. It may never get started. Or it may turn into the best ride of your life. Don't curse the ocean, or curse yourself. Offer gratitude to the wave for the good time you had (or, collect your broken board and scram), paddle back to the lineup, and wait for the next one.

8) Wearing sunscreen is a good idea. I'm sure you can figure this one out on your own.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Now I understand why women are constantly symbolized as oceans
 

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it's not a "theory"

it's a metaphor, an analogy at best.

the word theory is reserved for more serious works of imagination, which have at least some solid connection with reality.
 

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When I clicked on this thread, I thought I was gonna read a post about how to "beckon" or "wave" a woman over to you when she's with a group of her friends.

Boy, was "I" wrong! lol

I now see that you're talking about a very different kind of "wave" here.

Good analogy, Wait Out.


RESPECT.


V.U.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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wait_out said:
PS. 9) Conditions can be greatly affected by the moon
QFFT.

Great thread. I started surfing last year and totally sucked at it. This year will be the year of my redemption.
 
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