"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Wacky Coeds In Men's Room

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probably shoulda gamed this situation just for fun, but I've been getting frustrated as girls just freeze up around me and are unable to say or do anything.

Anyway, I just finished my workout in the morning and go to the bathroom to wash up. I notice there are three college girl athletes standing in front of the men's room. There's another gym room just next door, so I thought they were just lounging around. I round the corner, and notice one of them has her sweatpants down just above her vag. She pulls her sweatpants up casually as I round the corner. I step by the girls to walk into the men's room.

"Ladies, guy comin!" the same girl announces. I step back. Several girls start giggling inside.
"Where's the girl's room?" another girl asks. I walk around the corner to point it out to them.
"OK, got it," she says sharply.
One girl comes out. "Sorry!" she says.
I step in, but ask if there is anyone else. She says there is.
Another girl comes out giggling, and also says sorry, giggling.

Notes:
The girls didn't seem to be willing to stop me from going in the men's room. But I stopped myself. I shoulda gamed them some, but instead didn't do much, since like I said, I'm frustrated from girls just not being able to do or say anything around me. Any thoughts?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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kody_starr said:
probably shoulda gamed this situation just for fun, but I've been getting frustrated as girls just freeze up around me and are unable to say or do anything.

Anyway, I just finished my workout in the morning and go to the bathroom to wash up. I notice there are three college girl athletes standing in front of the men's room. There's another gym room just next door, so I thought they were just lounging around. I round the corner, and notice one of them has her sweatpants down just above her vag. She pulls her sweatpants up casually as I round the corner. I step by the girls to walk into the men's room.

"Ladies, guy comin!" the same girl announces. I step back. Several girls start giggling inside.
"Where's the girl's room?" another girl asks. I walk around the corner to point it out to them.
"OK, got it," she says sharply.
One girl comes out. "Sorry!" she says.
I step in, but ask if there is anyone else. She says there is.
Another girl comes out giggling, and also says sorry, giggling.

Notes:
The girls didn't seem to be willing to stop me from going in the men's room. But I stopped myself. I shoulda gamed them some, but instead didn't do much, since like I said, I'm frustrated from girls just not being able to do or say anything around me. Any thoughts?
It's not that they're not doing or saying anything around you, it's just you're not doing or saying anything around them. In this scenario, you played the typical guy who is unnerved by strange situation presented by giggling girls and calmly gets past it. You must be a Man if you want an interraction and you must boldly interact and INITIATE with the girls. Don't wait for them to try, in fact they already gave you lots of cues for things to say. ALWAYS initiate, don't leave it up to the woman.
 

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Yeah, now that I think about it, those girls were just begging to be put in their place....
 

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Why put them in their place? wouldn't you rather put them in your place? You could have flirted with them-you know " you ladies want to check out another mens room?"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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kody_starr

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Yeah, I probably shoulda played around with it. Maybe get a bj close in the bathroom? lol. I just thought the following things were odd:

1. five girls in or outside men's room.

2. one girl with her pants down all the way to the vag outside the door.

3. I go in and she doesn't stop me, just tells the girls inside!

I think they wanted an adventure and I was too chicken!
 

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WTF?

okay that's a damned peculiar situation. my gut reaction is "Uhh... is it even physically possible for you to use the urinals?"

I guess without experiencing it i can't say for certain, but more than likely i'd just raise an eyebrow, say something like above, then gauge their reaction.
 

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^These girls were definitely looking for an adventure of some kind, most likely in the prankster, and/or quickie sex vein. I know these are excuses, but, I felt outnumbered, like 5 or 6 girls to one, and I couldn't "tell" if they were protecting their girlfriends inside or if they were all in on a prank. Likely the latter. Silly me, I've been shy lately.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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