Voice Memos, any experience?

[member160292]

First date Saturday has been sending me voice memos since I opened that can of worms. It’s nice to hear the voice, but not sure if I can keep up. I’m new to all this, there’s a line under when I send it where it says Kept and the time. Meaning that it’s a read receipt in a nutshell, even if read receipts are turned off.

My only experience is from here

Observation from a Married Woman

I was on the Amtrak and there was an incident with no ETA of moving again. A 45 y/o woman and I start chatting. Decent looking and shape for her age. We decide to hop in an Uber together and try to outskirt the incident area and take an upcoming train. It was cancelled so we both took an Uber...

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This is entirely different than read receipts since you can see what the message is on the preview of the home screen, but this is receipts on steroids.

I feel the only way to win is not to play...
Anyone here used it with their prospects/plates?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Sounds complex and awful to try and navigate

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Sounds like she's trying to be extractive (i.e., attempting to consume a high amount of your time and energy). You haven't met her yet apparently, and she trying to act like you're in a relationship. Maybe re-schedule the date from Saturday to during the week, or otherwise de-escalate the date, to let her know it's not time to be serious at this point.

Am I correct in assuming you sent her a voice note and now she's bombarding you with them? Also remember it's cuffing season.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Never do this. Occasionally I will call if I have a plate that enjoys talking on the phone, usually as a reward.

 

[Zimbabwe]

I correct in assuming you sent her a voice note and now she's bombarding you with them? Also remember it's cuffing season.

This is the exact reason I don't send voice notes anymore. I had a girl send me 7 seperate voice notes, each at least a minute long.

 

[member160292]

Sounds like she's trying to be extractive (i.e., attempting to consume a high amount of your time and energy). You haven't met her yet apparently, and she trying to act like you're in a relationship. Maybe re-schedule the date from Saturday to during the week, or otherwise de-escalate the date, to let her know it's not time to be serious at this point.

Am I correct in assuming you sent her a voice note and now she's bombarding you with them? Also remember it's cuffing season.

It's cuffing season for sure! First date was this past Saturday.
I read it as her trying to filter out the players, but at the same time, she can be one herself.
Also has notifications silenced most of the time. What's your read here boys?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

It's cuffing season for sure! First date was this past Saturday.
I read it as her trying to filter out the players, but at the same time, she can be one herself.
Also has notifications silenced most of the time. What's your read here boys?

My read is bolded. The same as yours. Be wary of her faking high interest.

 

[member160292]

I left a voice memo yesterday afternoon to set up a second date Friday/Sunday and cracked a joke at the end. She replied with the 'Ha Ha' icon a hour later. Felt like I got left on read until she replied the next morning with a confirmation via text.

I think it's a good way to build rapport in between dates if you want to keep the interest going. If you're going to send a 'check-in' text, might just use this to add a little more touch.

 

[member160292]

Maybe I’m overthinking this, but here’s an interesting tidbit. You might be able use voice memos to train your plate to respond faster.

“Hey I’m at the store and picking up things for our dinner Tuesday, should I get x, y, or x?”

She won’t know what is said in the voice memo until she opens it, letting you know she listened. Weird thought, but I’m going to subtly do that a few times and see.

 

[SW15]

This is the exact reason I don't send voice notes anymore. I had a girl send me 7 seperate voice notes, each at least a minute long.

I don't understand voice memos at all. If you must have voice communication, pick up the telephone and make a phone call. If you want to avoid playing phone tag with someone, arrange a convenient time to talk on the phone via text message.