spinaroonie
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
JCballin88 said:Guys, this is why we grow beards.
I'd say some sort of computer studies students.Frank_Tartaglia said:This reminds me very much of my undergrad days.
Let me just guess, they are engineering students.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm just saying that if you have the capability to grow a beard, it doesn't hurt to show off that manly side of you. Some of my cool guy friends can't do it, but they don't have that "I'm a virgin" look plastered all over their bare, shiny faces.spinaroonie said:
They become cogs in the system like the rest of society...They'll working 40 a week the rest of their lives just like you, only difference is they'll have bigger cars. High paying jobs (As in over $100,000 a year) don't make a person rich.JCballin88 said:I'm just saying that if you have the capability to grow a beard, it doesn't hurt to show off that manly side of you. Some of my cool guy friends can't do it, but they don't have that "I'm a virgin" look plastered all over their bare, shiny faces.
These guys look just like the students that go in and out of the Engineering building at my college (one of which is my roommate.) Always awkwardly dressed, no sense of posture or way to carry themselves confidently. They slump over and avoid any possible interaction with these strange "females" that some of their bolder friends attempt to befriend.
But hey, these are the guys who are going to be making BANK, so they'll be the ones laughing at some of us down the line.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
old married dude said:Looks pathetic, they need someone to show them how to spruce themselves up. If they all started hitting the gym, got new clothes, and new haircuts it would help a lot for starters.