spinaroonie
Senior Don Juan
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
JCballin88 said:Guys, this is why we grow beards.
I'd say some sort of computer studies students.Frank_Tartaglia said:This reminds me very much of my undergrad days.
Let me just guess, they are engineering students.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm just saying that if you have the capability to grow a beard, it doesn't hurt to show off that manly side of you. Some of my cool guy friends can't do it, but they don't have that "I'm a virgin" look plastered all over their bare, shiny faces.spinaroonie said:
They become cogs in the system like the rest of society...They'll working 40 a week the rest of their lives just like you, only difference is they'll have bigger cars. High paying jobs (As in over $100,000 a year) don't make a person rich.JCballin88 said:I'm just saying that if you have the capability to grow a beard, it doesn't hurt to show off that manly side of you. Some of my cool guy friends can't do it, but they don't have that "I'm a virgin" look plastered all over their bare, shiny faces.
These guys look just like the students that go in and out of the Engineering building at my college (one of which is my roommate.) Always awkwardly dressed, no sense of posture or way to carry themselves confidently. They slump over and avoid any possible interaction with these strange "females" that some of their bolder friends attempt to befriend.
But hey, these are the guys who are going to be making BANK, so they'll be the ones laughing at some of us down the line.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
old married dude said:Looks pathetic, they need someone to show them how to spruce themselves up. If they all started hitting the gym, got new clothes, and new haircuts it would help a lot for starters.