spinaroonie
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
JCballin88 said:Guys, this is why we grow beards.
I'd say some sort of computer studies students.Frank_Tartaglia said:This reminds me very much of my undergrad days.
Let me just guess, they are engineering students.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I'm just saying that if you have the capability to grow a beard, it doesn't hurt to show off that manly side of you. Some of my cool guy friends can't do it, but they don't have that "I'm a virgin" look plastered all over their bare, shiny faces.spinaroonie said:
They become cogs in the system like the rest of society...They'll working 40 a week the rest of their lives just like you, only difference is they'll have bigger cars. High paying jobs (As in over $100,000 a year) don't make a person rich.JCballin88 said:I'm just saying that if you have the capability to grow a beard, it doesn't hurt to show off that manly side of you. Some of my cool guy friends can't do it, but they don't have that "I'm a virgin" look plastered all over their bare, shiny faces.
These guys look just like the students that go in and out of the Engineering building at my college (one of which is my roommate.) Always awkwardly dressed, no sense of posture or way to carry themselves confidently. They slump over and avoid any possible interaction with these strange "females" that some of their bolder friends attempt to befriend.
But hey, these are the guys who are going to be making BANK, so they'll be the ones laughing at some of us down the line.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
old married dude said:Looks pathetic, they need someone to show them how to spruce themselves up. If they all started hitting the gym, got new clothes, and new haircuts it would help a lot for starters.