"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Virgin girl wants to "reciprocate"

sky77

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I've posted a few times on this forum regarding a girl I've been dating for some time now.

Shes a virgin. Last time we hung out we hooked up and I escalated to oral sex with her. I think she enjoyed it alot. After I ate her out she basically grabbed me and was kissing me with alot more passion.

She told me that she wants to reciprocate but doesn't know how. She also seems really embarrassed that she is inexperienced. I keep telling her that she can do whatever and I won't care if she sucks (no pun intended) at it, its all in good fun no stress etc.

Now I've heard conflicting advice on how to handle this. My stance at this point has just been the guy who is extremely NOT NEEDY for sex. My plan is to basically wait until she is so sexually comfortable with me that she will show some initiative and I can then "help" guide her.

The other side of the coin would be to kind of nudge her to do something. What is the best way to handle a girl who is shy sexually and inexperienced?
should i control the frame and kind of try to teach her? or wait until she is more comfortable? any advice would be awesome. thanks.

I basically just don't want to **** anything up and still eventually get head/sex down the line. I am patient also, so getting it soon isnt really an issue, i just want it eventually.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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KontrollerX

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Just have her lick on your johnson for a while to get her started.

You don't want her trying to imitate Belladonna or Jenna Jameson too soon because getting scraped by teeth hurts.
 

Papermoon

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Seriously. tell her what she needs to do. She said she is inexperienced and she wants to make you feel good. So, be a man and help her out.
The first few times won't be great, because she will make mistakes and it will be a bit awkward, but in time she'll improve. So be patient.

Make it playful, if you don't know how to lead her/initiate it. There are tons of things you can do. Buy somen love dice, that are 2 dice, one with verbs, the other with body parts. Or, have a tit-for-tat-session. You say one thing you want, she says one thing she wants.
 

The Deacon

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Please forget that whole "I don't need sex" thing. You only do that when the offer's not quite on the plate yet. This girl told you that she wants to reciprocate, but she doesn't know how. Tell her that you're going to teach her. She wants some kind of sexual revolution, so you should give it to her.

Bring her to your place, escalate to the point where both your clothes are off, and teach her how to make love. Have you read about the push/pull and freeze-out dynamics? If she resists penetration (otherwise known as Last Minute Resistance), just stop everything, turn on the lights, and do something else. If her buying temperature is high, she'll want you back in bed. If that's the case, go back in there and try penetration again. If she resists, repeat the freeze-out again.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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