"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Virgin girl wants to "reciprocate"

sky77

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I've posted a few times on this forum regarding a girl I've been dating for some time now.

Shes a virgin. Last time we hung out we hooked up and I escalated to oral sex with her. I think she enjoyed it alot. After I ate her out she basically grabbed me and was kissing me with alot more passion.

She told me that she wants to reciprocate but doesn't know how. She also seems really embarrassed that she is inexperienced. I keep telling her that she can do whatever and I won't care if she sucks (no pun intended) at it, its all in good fun no stress etc.

Now I've heard conflicting advice on how to handle this. My stance at this point has just been the guy who is extremely NOT NEEDY for sex. My plan is to basically wait until she is so sexually comfortable with me that she will show some initiative and I can then "help" guide her.

The other side of the coin would be to kind of nudge her to do something. What is the best way to handle a girl who is shy sexually and inexperienced?
should i control the frame and kind of try to teach her? or wait until she is more comfortable? any advice would be awesome. thanks.

I basically just don't want to **** anything up and still eventually get head/sex down the line. I am patient also, so getting it soon isnt really an issue, i just want it eventually.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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KontrollerX

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Just have her lick on your johnson for a while to get her started.

You don't want her trying to imitate Belladonna or Jenna Jameson too soon because getting scraped by teeth hurts.
 

Papermoon

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Seriously. tell her what she needs to do. She said she is inexperienced and she wants to make you feel good. So, be a man and help her out.
The first few times won't be great, because she will make mistakes and it will be a bit awkward, but in time she'll improve. So be patient.

Make it playful, if you don't know how to lead her/initiate it. There are tons of things you can do. Buy somen love dice, that are 2 dice, one with verbs, the other with body parts. Or, have a tit-for-tat-session. You say one thing you want, she says one thing she wants.
 

The Deacon

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Please forget that whole "I don't need sex" thing. You only do that when the offer's not quite on the plate yet. This girl told you that she wants to reciprocate, but she doesn't know how. Tell her that you're going to teach her. She wants some kind of sexual revolution, so you should give it to her.

Bring her to your place, escalate to the point where both your clothes are off, and teach her how to make love. Have you read about the push/pull and freeze-out dynamics? If she resists penetration (otherwise known as Last Minute Resistance), just stop everything, turn on the lights, and do something else. If her buying temperature is high, she'll want you back in bed. If that's the case, go back in there and try penetration again. If she resists, repeat the freeze-out again.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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