"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Virgin girl wants to "reciprocate"

sky77

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I've posted a few times on this forum regarding a girl I've been dating for some time now.

Shes a virgin. Last time we hung out we hooked up and I escalated to oral sex with her. I think she enjoyed it alot. After I ate her out she basically grabbed me and was kissing me with alot more passion.

She told me that she wants to reciprocate but doesn't know how. She also seems really embarrassed that she is inexperienced. I keep telling her that she can do whatever and I won't care if she sucks (no pun intended) at it, its all in good fun no stress etc.

Now I've heard conflicting advice on how to handle this. My stance at this point has just been the guy who is extremely NOT NEEDY for sex. My plan is to basically wait until she is so sexually comfortable with me that she will show some initiative and I can then "help" guide her.

The other side of the coin would be to kind of nudge her to do something. What is the best way to handle a girl who is shy sexually and inexperienced?
should i control the frame and kind of try to teach her? or wait until she is more comfortable? any advice would be awesome. thanks.

I basically just don't want to **** anything up and still eventually get head/sex down the line. I am patient also, so getting it soon isnt really an issue, i just want it eventually.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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KontrollerX

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Just have her lick on your johnson for a while to get her started.

You don't want her trying to imitate Belladonna or Jenna Jameson too soon because getting scraped by teeth hurts.
 

Papermoon

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Seriously. tell her what she needs to do. She said she is inexperienced and she wants to make you feel good. So, be a man and help her out.
The first few times won't be great, because she will make mistakes and it will be a bit awkward, but in time she'll improve. So be patient.

Make it playful, if you don't know how to lead her/initiate it. There are tons of things you can do. Buy somen love dice, that are 2 dice, one with verbs, the other with body parts. Or, have a tit-for-tat-session. You say one thing you want, she says one thing she wants.
 

The Deacon

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Please forget that whole "I don't need sex" thing. You only do that when the offer's not quite on the plate yet. This girl told you that she wants to reciprocate, but she doesn't know how. Tell her that you're going to teach her. She wants some kind of sexual revolution, so you should give it to her.

Bring her to your place, escalate to the point where both your clothes are off, and teach her how to make love. Have you read about the push/pull and freeze-out dynamics? If she resists penetration (otherwise known as Last Minute Resistance), just stop everything, turn on the lights, and do something else. If her buying temperature is high, she'll want you back in bed. If that's the case, go back in there and try penetration again. If she resists, repeat the freeze-out again.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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