"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vietnamese in northern europe.

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I just recently moved here, a forced move, a month ago and man I don't know whetever it is my excuses or no but it is much harder than in my homecountry.

I am currently living in Finland but I will be traveling back and forth to Sweden. I have heard the cruises are a pretty good place.

Guys, give me some tips and infos about these 'cold' countries. These people are much more introverted and not so open. And this thought that I am an Asian, they don't accept me is constantly nagging me. Is it the case? I have not had enough time to hit the bars and aprreoaches and find out for myself because of settling here is still in process: looking for school, not social circle yet, no friends no ****, dunno language, dunno culture, dunno what thy wanna hear to get ther vag tingles. This culture is completely different compared to vietnameses. Yeah I have only heard, but the popular is probably that me, dunno whetever I am middle Asian or the small ones chineses categorized. But they pretty much does not even mention Vietnamese people as cons or pros in Europe as far as dating is concerned, englightened me.

Man, I need some quick, cool, great small infos big tips and so.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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well I live in the Netherlands. In my experience the people from Nordic countries like Sweden and Denmark are very friendly.

I don't know in what kind of place your living, but I can imagine that if you're moving into a small town it might be hard to integrate, as the villagers there are already a close-knit group.

If you're moving to a city then it should be easier for you to find a place where you are comfortable.

Just make sure you do take care of your responsibilities and work on learning the language so you can get to know the people and go to school.

I find swedish girls very pleasant and welcoming as well btw.

Just don't worry. Respect yourself and don't worry about others' opinions. Do a lot of observing the first few months, ask what the customs are, etc.

I love swedish chicks, and the dudes from there are also pretty friendly. I can make friends with them easily as a german/dutchman.

Just watch and learn, but remember to respect yourself, don't let anyone fvck with you.

Make sure you don't let anyone get the idea that you are a white-knight/pvssy.
 

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Let the self-serving stereotyping and sour grapes begin. "All the Anglo and Nordic b!tches are frigid and the men are racist." Interspersed with bragging. "All the Anglo and Nordic b!tches are slvts and the men are weak, unlike me."


Edit: not necessarily talking about you, Thomson. Btw, you have heard about "the Asian Pickup Artist", JT Tran, I presume? Came to think of him, also Vietnamese I guess from the name.

"IRT"? All the abbreviations here are impossible to keep up with for the average forum viewer.
 

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Wolfgang D said:
"IRT"? All the abbreviations here are impossible to keep up with for the average forum viewer.
IRT = Indian Race Troll. You just fell for the trap!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What The fvck with this troll ****? I'm seriously looking for some discussion and help and the motherfvckers keep bringing this troll here? Are you all fvucking idiots?
 

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Thomson said:
What The fvck with this troll ****? I'm seriously looking for some discussion and help and the motherfvckers keep bringing this troll here? Are you all fvucking idiots?
Whoa, easy there, cupcake. Please don't napalm us, mister.
Here are a few tips for you:

Thomson said:
These people are much more introverted and not so open. And this thought that I am an Asian, they don't accept me is constantly nagging me
Tip 1: check your attitude and be more friendly yourself, but first...

Thomson said:
dunno language, dunno culture
Tip 2: learn the language and sink into the culture.

Thomson said:
dunno what thy wanna hear to get ther vag tingles
become a viking.
 

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iamnobody said:
Whoa, easy there, cupcake. Please don't napalm us, mister.
Here are a few tips for you:


Tip 1: check your attitude and be more friendly yourself, but first...


Tip 2: learn the language and sink into the culture.


become a viking.
Sometimes you get pssed.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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