Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It depends on what is meant by "natural". Humans are very psychologically malleable, so the enforced meme of monogamy worked - of course, part of this was that women's hypergamous nature was highly frowned upon, sometimes including being tortured at the stake for being a "witch" (which really means a woman that seduces married men). However, my definition of "natural" means without any social meme unforced, and so I have to say that women are naturally hypergamous; our current dating wasteland is pretty much prima facie evidence of this natural trait.The video says one thing I've been saying since I joined the forum. A lot of guys on here try to say that monogamy is unnatural, but I have always maintained that both monogamy and polyamory are natural, as humans are highly adaptable to different situations.
As for young women, obviously they have an advantage when it comes to the number of fertile years they have left. Also, women have childlike facial features which prompt feelings of protection in males. This is even more true in younger females.
I don't see how you can inject a "no social memes enforced" on a species that is naturally very social. I'd say you also need heavy socialization for women to be hypergamous as well. Also, all these habits were highly ingrained long before women were being burned as witches. Besides, the pair bonding instinct is far too deep to discount monogamy as unnatural.However, my definition of "natural" means without any social meme unforced, and so I have to say that women are naturally hypergamous; our current dating wasteland is pretty much prima facie evidence of this natural trait.
Yes, the pair-bonding instinct is there - because humanity had evolved as such (i.e., women that chose cads ended up perishing) - but the hypergamous instinct is also there (from being mammals), and I would say stronger.I don't see how you can inject a "no social memes enforced" on a species that is naturally very social. I'd say you also need heavy socialization for women to be hypergamous as well. Also, all these habits were highly ingrained long before women were being burned as witches. Besides, the pair bonding instinct is far too deep to discount monogamy as unnatural.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.