"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Video Shop FR (Pop Corn)

LeviathanIYG

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4:10pm Last Monday

I was going to the video shop I had to return some DVD’s every Thursday I get some DVD’s and every Monday I return them I kind of get in to routines and find them hard to break. So I walk into the video shop and there’s the HB8.5 working I always talk to her for a bit, very nice girl she’s Turkish she has that whole virgin look going but as we all know looks can be deceiving:

Me: Hey watsup?
HB8.5: nothing much typical Monday you know? (kind of a sad look to emphasize her boredom)
Me: Oh come on you work in a Video shop your surrounded my thousands of great movies and your bored?
HB8.5: There’s no couch or popcorn
Me: Has anyone ever told you, you complain a lot?
HB8.5: Shutupppppp

(We talked a little longer and then I left)

After I left I thought when she said the popcorn thing I could have said “well I’ll tell you what, Thursday night I’ll take you out to a movie and if you’re nice I’ll buy you some popcorn” (I don’t usually buy girls things but this type of girl I judged it ok) but I didn’t say it so I had to think of something else………

4:10pm Today

I walk back into the video shop and she’s working I’m dropping of some DVD’s again but this time I came in with a bag of popcorn. You can buy popcorn in these plastic bags it’s not hot but anyway:

HB8.5: Heyyyyyy how are you?
Me: Im great how about you? Wait wait let me guess your bored?
HB8.5: Wow how did you guess? (that wasn’t really a question)
Me: No couch and no popcorn
HB8.5: (giggles) you remember
Me: Yeh I do, ey guess what?
HB8.5: What?
Me: I’m going to unborden you now
HB8.5: (slight smile) How you going to do that?
Me: (pull out the bag of popcorn from behind the counter) I couldn’t do much about the couch but here’s the popcorn
HB8.5: (she starts laughing and laughing)
Me: Now pick any movie in the store, watch it and eat your popcorn
HB8.5: (still laughing) OMG thank you (laughing)
Me: And Thursday night I’ll take you out to see a movie and you can sit on a comfy chair

When she finally stopped laughing she agreed to go out, we traded numbers and I got a kiss goodbye on the cheek.

When we go out Thursday I’m going to make her buy me popcorn I’ll say “you have to buy me popcorn to return the favor” or something like that.

Yeh that’s my unexpected pickup of the day.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How refreshing and pleasant. That's about as natural it comes.

Of course it's contingent upon long term captive audience (regular liasing in rental store). A lot can be done with a fostering environment like that, but not everyone has such opportunities.
 

LeviathanIYG

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You are right but I also do straight out cold aprroches check out my previous FR for that.
 

lebRambo

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well done man. thats the kinda sh*t i like to see. :D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That was nice.
 
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