"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When your Long term girlfriend is out of the country for her birthday, what do you guys make of recording & sending a video message as part of her present?

Sending by post I mean, not by internet.

And I don't mean anything really lovey dovey, or anything sexual either. Just a pleasant wishing her a good day simple message that lasts only a minute or two.

Lame or alright?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'd just give her a call, but if you want to make a video then do it.
 
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well, only reason why i'm considering it is because we won't see eachother again until September, so it's a long wait.
 
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well, I don't really know enough about your relationship (or the girl in question) to make a particularly sound judgement. But again, I'd probably just go for the call.

However, provided that you two have a good, equal relationship (with high IL on her part) I don't see any real problem with a video. She might think it's sweet.

Just do what feels right, and if you feel you're going further than she would (in terms of amount of affection), then stop.
 
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