"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Victoria's Secret

yohanes3000

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Hey Don Juan's!!!
I must say this site is ridiculously useful not just with girls but with changing one's total oulook in life, I say this because it did i feel like i have a different outlook and ive only been reading threads only a week now.

Fight Club is my favorite movie of all time and i remember someone reffering to it and i can't that off my mind.

This is my first post.

I just need some advice on how to approach this broad i've been noticing, the dilemma is she works @ Victoria's Secret whick seems like an awkward place for a dude to come in just to approach a girl.
I need advice on a good Ice breaker (I am open to any).

Oh and I think she does notice me because ive caught her a few times eye balling me from head to toe. We've also exchange a few smiles.

please fellas i just don't know how to break the ice.

Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Giovanni Casanova

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Just ask her to help you find something for your sister. Then start talking to her from there.

(I am kidding. Do not do this.)
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Just ask her to help you find something for your sister. Then start talking to her from there.

(I am kidding. Do not do this.)

No - not your sister. But tell her you're looking for something for a "friend". She will infer that you have a female friend you buy lingerie from - [kinda] social proof.
 

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Originally posted by jakethasnake
No - not your sister. But tell her you're looking for something for a "friend". She will infer that you have a female friend you buy lingerie from - [kinda] social proof.
But if you do this, you have to be pretty careful. I wouldn't try this at home... I'd leave it to professionals on a closed course. Why?

  1. If you tell her you're buying lingerie for a "friend", and then start hitting on her, she may very well think you're either (a) lying; or (b) a dirty, dirty player.
  2. If you're not pretty aggressive, saying you are buying lingerie for a "friend" might get you labelled as "taken" in her mind.
  3. Victoria's Secret girls are not necessarily stupid. They realize that there are two kinds of men who go into Victoria's Secret: "taken" men, and men attempting to use ruses to pick up girls who work at Victoria's Secret. [/list=1]
 

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jakethasnake

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
But if you do this, you have to be pretty careful. I wouldn't try this at home... I'd leave it to professionals on a closed course. Why?

  1. If you tell her you're buying lingerie for a "friend", and then start hitting on her, she may very well think you're either (a) lying; or (b) a dirty, dirty player.
  2. If you're not pretty aggressive, saying you are buying lingerie for a "friend" might get you labelled as "taken" in her mind.
  3. Victoria's Secret girls are not necessarily stupid. They realize that there are two kinds of men who go into Victoria's Secret: "taken" men, and men attempting to use ruses to pick up girls who work at Victoria's Secret. [/list=1]



  1. Right. But I had assumed that a guy using this ruse would be aggressive and very suggestive to the salesgirl. This type of pickup is only designed for the type of girl that gets off on 'seducing' men that are already with a woman - in other words, competitive slvts. So that's what I suggested. Hmmmm..... on second thought this might work with a Hooters girl or a stripper, but not necessarily with a Victoria's Secret girl. Could be worth a try, just as an experiment.
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
But if you do this, you have to be pretty careful. I wouldn't try this at home... I'd leave it to professionals on a closed course. Why?

  1. If you tell her you're buying lingerie for a "friend", and then start hitting on her, she may very well think you're either (a) lying; or (b) a dirty, dirty player.
  2. If you're not pretty aggressive, saying you are buying lingerie for a "friend" might get you labelled as "taken" in her mind.
  3. Victoria's Secret girls are not necessarily stupid. They realize that there are two kinds of men who go into Victoria's Secret: "taken" men, and men attempting to use ruses to pick up girls who work at Victoria's Secret. [/list=1]


  1. So what? she'll know you're interested. Thats what you want isn't it?
 

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Originally posted by jonny football hero
So what? she'll know you're interested. Thats what you want isn't it?
Apparently not. If that was the only goal, he would just go into Victoria's Secret, walk up to this girl, and say, "Hey there. My name is Yohanes. I am interested in you."
 

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Say that you want to buy a piece of lingerie for a friend... a guy friend as a joke. That would get a conversation started. :p :D
 

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Why not just go in there looking for some guy stuff? Like they have some of the best men's colognes in there, just ask her to help you pick a good one out.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Actually.. I'd advise against becoming a customer. If you think she noticed you, and you noticed her.. ignore your little voice that says it's awkward to just go in and approach her.

go
 

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Yep. Don't try to trick her into talking to you. Show her you have balls and just walk straight up to her and talk to her.

"Had to drop in and say i find you facinating. How about we go get a bite to eat when you get off work?."

Something to that effect should work great if she truly is interested in you like you think.
 

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With all seriousness, how did you know she worked at Victoria Secret - were you in the store for some reason? See her through a window? What?

Thats your in to talk to her... but you'll have to do that just go straight up a cold approach her.
 

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(walks into store)

her: hi... may i help you sir.. what are you looking for?

me: how about something sexy in your size? -wink-

her: -giggle- i don't think that's possible sir

me: damn. gimme your number anyway, we should go for a coffee.

her: evil ulterior motives eh. (makes sure boss isnt looking and adds her number on my phone)

me: (big grin)

went out a couple of times with her, still seeing her occasionally.

saying something ****y/funny will work in this scenario
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thanks for all the advice fellas I will take all of them into cosideration...............will let you guys know how it turns out.

peace
 
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