greatsnake
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thanks for the clarity. What about the damsel in distress? haha more red flags, right?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Victim mentality
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She uses that ploy to gain your sympathy and pull you in deeper. She tries to use the truth to work for her.
Pity her because of all the bad Exes that left her…
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greatsnake
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yeah, textbook manipulation.
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You can tell within a five minute conversation (if you are actively seeking the answer) whether any human has victim mentality.
If you need to philosophize about why that is, or what the ramifications of hanging out with victims, you're likely a victim yourself as @deesade pointed out.
DQ victims and move on. No need to worry about the why's and heretofore's.
Unless you are a sociopath or con-artist, then that's another story.
If you need to philosophize about why that is, or what the ramifications of hanging out with victims, you're likely a victim yourself as @deesade pointed out.
DQ victims and move on. No need to worry about the why's and heretofore's.
Unless you are a sociopath or con-artist, then that's another story.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.