greatsnake
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thanks for the clarity. What about the damsel in distress? haha more red flags, right?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Victim mentality
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She uses that ploy to gain your sympathy and pull you in deeper. She tries to use the truth to work for her.
Pity her because of all the bad Exes that left her…
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greatsnake
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yeah, textbook manipulation.
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You can tell within a five minute conversation (if you are actively seeking the answer) whether any human has victim mentality.
If you need to philosophize about why that is, or what the ramifications of hanging out with victims, you're likely a victim yourself as @deesade pointed out.
DQ victims and move on. No need to worry about the why's and heretofore's.
Unless you are a sociopath or con-artist, then that's another story.
If you need to philosophize about why that is, or what the ramifications of hanging out with victims, you're likely a victim yourself as @deesade pointed out.
DQ victims and move on. No need to worry about the why's and heretofore's.
Unless you are a sociopath or con-artist, then that's another story.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.