Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Very very confused, and ready for help!

ltwolf8

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Hello,

Im new to this whole idea of asking for help from people I do not know and what not...

But I need help very bad, I have been very confused! please help


The problem

I have fallen in love with my best friend, who is a girl, her name is jessica, we have been friends for over 2 years, and I have liked her on and off while we have been friends, but i have always been more concerned about are relationship as friends instead of a couple. I have not felt this way for her beofre, this is a new feelings...

I dont want to ruin the friendship, but i know where very good friends so I wonder if telling her would even matter, because we have gone through hader times togeather!


In the end, I dont know what to do, I have made her feel special, made her feel like she is the only one that matters in my life, which is true!

I need help, I think about her way to much...

We went out yesterday august 8th, And i took her out for a nice dinner, we had alot of fun togeather, she told me everything because me and her havnt talked in a while(she went to camp) and she tells me about doing things with this guy, and she sounded like she really wanted to do it, and likeshe had alot of fun... But then I tell her that is disapointing alittle bit, and then she is like "oh well i regert it now"...

Im only sure of thing atm, im sure that im very very confused, and i know nothing else
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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dude dude dude, i might be new here, but i did the exact same thang when i was an AFC, i dated a good friend and now we aren't really even talking tat much. u can't say "hey i like u, let's be together." u gotta give her little signs tat u like her and if she responds the right way and she says she wants u, then go for it, but if she says nothing, dont go for it. basically, wut i mean is give her signs, but she has to be the first one to directly do somethang. thats jsut me. i hope this helps u man.
 

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Mate! No offence but I don't think you could have done any worse. Read up on the bible!
 

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Well I would rather have a friend then a girlfriend. Just do whatever you want, but beware that once you decide that you want to take your relationship further, you can't go back. I would just stay friends.
 

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lol i wanna nail my best chick friend and i feel bad for cause we've been like best friends since fifth grade but i dont wanna relationship...and sex will probably ruin the friendship so i just keep it in my pants.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I was in that exact same situation (on both ends actually). My friend, Anna, is probably one of the elite girls. One of those girls that no one can get with (and I am not just saying that, she has 3 guys to her name). One piece of advice, cause I am hardly anything close to a DJ, UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD YOU C0CK BLOCK. I never did that, no one should ever do that, that is one of the ****est things to do.
 

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Alright guys, thx for all your help, and what not!


But see its not about sex, its the fact that im falling in love with her!


and signs? Im not so good at that, how the ***k would I do that?
 

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Sorry if it's a little too late but i wouldnt do that because just look at it this way, most people who tried hookin up with their reall close friend ended up not talking for a while, so take that into consideration
 

Best friends? NAY

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I would HIGHLY suggest against it. The best thing you can do is date other people.
If you are best friends then she will deffidently know. If she has feelings for you then she will probaly make it more obvious. IF she does not (which is the probale case) have feelings for you then you won't care as much beacuse your dating other people.
 

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Ah ha, well thx guys, Im really glad you guys helped me out! I am alot less confused, and Now I know what to do!




WOOT WOOT:D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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