"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Very very confused, and ready for help!

ltwolf8

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Hello,

Im new to this whole idea of asking for help from people I do not know and what not...

But I need help very bad, I have been very confused! please help


The problem

I have fallen in love with my best friend, who is a girl, her name is jessica, we have been friends for over 2 years, and I have liked her on and off while we have been friends, but i have always been more concerned about are relationship as friends instead of a couple. I have not felt this way for her beofre, this is a new feelings...

I dont want to ruin the friendship, but i know where very good friends so I wonder if telling her would even matter, because we have gone through hader times togeather!


In the end, I dont know what to do, I have made her feel special, made her feel like she is the only one that matters in my life, which is true!

I need help, I think about her way to much...

We went out yesterday august 8th, And i took her out for a nice dinner, we had alot of fun togeather, she told me everything because me and her havnt talked in a while(she went to camp) and she tells me about doing things with this guy, and she sounded like she really wanted to do it, and likeshe had alot of fun... But then I tell her that is disapointing alittle bit, and then she is like "oh well i regert it now"...

Im only sure of thing atm, im sure that im very very confused, and i know nothing else
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Inquire

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dude dude dude, i might be new here, but i did the exact same thang when i was an AFC, i dated a good friend and now we aren't really even talking tat much. u can't say "hey i like u, let's be together." u gotta give her little signs tat u like her and if she responds the right way and she says she wants u, then go for it, but if she says nothing, dont go for it. basically, wut i mean is give her signs, but she has to be the first one to directly do somethang. thats jsut me. i hope this helps u man.
 

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Mate! No offence but I don't think you could have done any worse. Read up on the bible!
 

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Well I would rather have a friend then a girlfriend. Just do whatever you want, but beware that once you decide that you want to take your relationship further, you can't go back. I would just stay friends.
 

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lol i wanna nail my best chick friend and i feel bad for cause we've been like best friends since fifth grade but i dont wanna relationship...and sex will probably ruin the friendship so i just keep it in my pants.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I was in that exact same situation (on both ends actually). My friend, Anna, is probably one of the elite girls. One of those girls that no one can get with (and I am not just saying that, she has 3 guys to her name). One piece of advice, cause I am hardly anything close to a DJ, UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD YOU C0CK BLOCK. I never did that, no one should ever do that, that is one of the ****est things to do.
 

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Alright guys, thx for all your help, and what not!


But see its not about sex, its the fact that im falling in love with her!


and signs? Im not so good at that, how the ***k would I do that?
 

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Sorry if it's a little too late but i wouldnt do that because just look at it this way, most people who tried hookin up with their reall close friend ended up not talking for a while, so take that into consideration
 

Best friends? NAY

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I would HIGHLY suggest against it. The best thing you can do is date other people.
If you are best friends then she will deffidently know. If she has feelings for you then she will probaly make it more obvious. IF she does not (which is the probale case) have feelings for you then you won't care as much beacuse your dating other people.
 

ltwolf8

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Ah ha, well thx guys, Im really glad you guys helped me out! I am alot less confused, and Now I know what to do!




WOOT WOOT:D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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