okay i've been trying and been doing everything on this sight but cant seem to get the nice guy reputation off of my name. girls wont even start up convos with me and dont really want to talk to me. and to make it worse one of my best friends(nice guys) seems to be getting a lot of attention from a lot of girls. it seems reversed situations. i am getting very unmotivated. any help?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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just stop being so nice or read the dj bible
john paul
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Becoming your new DJ self isnt going to happen over night. Its going to be a slow transformation and its going to be even slower for people to realise your changing.
Make sure you know how the DJ acts and give it a month for some noticable changes. Its been about 5 months for me now and im starting to see some big changes in how people see and respect me.
Make sure you know how the DJ acts and give it a month for some noticable changes. Its been about 5 months for me now and im starting to see some big changes in how people see and respect me.
How long you been doin this for?
Um, duh. Girls are passive. YOU have to take ACTION and initiate with THEM. A DJ just doesn't wait around for girls to approach him...girls wont even start up convos with me
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Yeah I know what that's like.lsu03 said:okay i've been trying and been doing everything on this sight but cant seem to get the nice guy reputation off of my name. girls wont even start up convos with me and dont really want to talk to me. and to make it worse one of my best friends(nice guys) seems to be getting a lot of attention from a lot of girls. it seems reversed situations. i am getting very unmotivated. any help?
You have to start up conversations with girls at first and then they'll start conversation with you.
Remember, don't give a damn what anyone else thinks.
Since your friend is getting so much attention, just hang around with him more and you'll be able to talk to girls.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Quick advice: Worry less about how youre percieved. If youre a good person, do what makes you happy and leave it at that. You cannot require others validation your entire life or you will be miserable. I hope this helps, feel free to PM me if you have any questions.
man, ok just a quick note, what do u mean by nice? if a girl asks u to move a bit so that she can get in to get her beer, what would u do? would u say,"only if u buy me one" or just say,"sure" with a smile and then moving aside turning ur back to her? nice is not when u behave good with a girl, nice is when u try to be too good with a girl. thats a turn off to a girl. just dont act needy, be happy with urself and for the time being, focus on how to build the chemistry with a girl or girls while at the same time, coming off as a prize. that will solve ur prob and check this whole site thouroughly and make naturals friends as many as possible.
Hey Isu
One thing to think about is not actually thinking about it
Leave your mind to be free of the worry and let yourself have a good time whatever you're doing
They don't approach you? so what? They're the ones to be next sat alone thinking of what they should have said to you when they see you leaving with a hot lass that day.
It can only be done with confidence, a genuine smile and no worries at all
As long as you feel comfortable, everyone around you will too, just have fun, tease them and they will be at your feet by the next day.
One thing to think about is not actually thinking about it
Leave your mind to be free of the worry and let yourself have a good time whatever you're doing
They don't approach you? so what? They're the ones to be next sat alone thinking of what they should have said to you when they see you leaving with a hot lass that day.
It can only be done with confidence, a genuine smile and no worries at all
As long as you feel comfortable, everyone around you will too, just have fun, tease them and they will be at your feet by the next day.
'I can't get rid of my niceguy image'
That's the problem, you are still worrying about what people think of you. That's a nice guy trait. You can try to be a bad@ass, you just be one.
Ok that's a bit harsh considering your just starting, but you wont truly lose your imagine untill you geniuenly stop caring about what people think of you.
That's the problem, you are still worrying about what people think of you. That's a nice guy trait. You can try to be a bad@ass, you just be one.
Ok that's a bit harsh considering your just starting, but you wont truly lose your imagine untill you geniuenly stop caring about what people think of you.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Stop caring about what people think you are, and be less nice, adopt the personality you want. Pretty soon people will start realising you're different. I was a 'nice guy' in secondary school (age 11-16), but now, nearly 3 years on, all those girls I knew from school instantly realise I'm completely different now when they meet me.
Just keep it up mate.
Just keep it up mate.
ok lsu, i have a slightly modified advice for u: dont become completely different suddenly, it would lose u some friends, u bet and u wont like that. guys, we are trying to improve ourselves. we would gradually change ourselves and if u had not been meeting someone for a long time, they might meet u someday and it seems u have changed a lot but that is natural to be taken after a long time, isnt it? i would ask u just to stop doing anything nice or too good to anyone at the moment unless it is urgent (applies more importantly to girls) and try to stand out by being different and a bit more adventurous fun.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.