"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Very odd situation, but what would you guys do?

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Well, this kind of an odd situation, but if you heard a girl, crying, obviously in despair, what would you do? Would you simply try ignore it(as it hard as that is), or would you say something to the girl? Why am I asking? I was in this situation at school earlier. I was just sitting down waiting for my ride, when I hear this chick crying obviously very sad about something. It was very hard to ignore, and I wondered if I should of just said something to her.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Charm

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Women are more open with their emotions in public. Unless she appeared hurt or in danger, it really isn't your business sticking your nose into the situation. You could ask her, "Are you hurt? Do you need some kind of assistance?" and if she wants to open up to you she is. If you are equipped to handle being the emotional tampon then by all means go for it, but unless you are looking to take advantage of someone who is vulnerable and crying, this really isnt an opportune time to pickup.
 

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Eh, maybe I still retain some AFC qualities, but I wouldn't be able to stop myself from going over and seeing if I could do something to help. I'm a sucker for tears.

Then again, if it was a guy crying, I'd probably still do the same thing, though I'd be expecting a punch in the face.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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oakraiderz2

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I wouldnt do anything, and heres why...people more often than not dont open up to people they dont feel comfortable opening up to, let alone strangers. Are you gonna get a girls number whos balling her eyes out? I doubt it. That would be more than awkward. Not to mention the off chance of you getting her number, her association of you to the mood she was previously in. Thats why you dont hit on girls you first meet if theyre in a bad mood. Association emotions to people has a strong effect. Unless youre good at what you do (youre not...at this point in time), i wouldnt suggest it. But hey, what the fvck do i know.
 

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This is proubly the best post hes ever posted i must say.

Not a big deal, just ask if shes ok and see where it goes from there.
 

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I would ask her if she was okay, but not with the intention of getting a number. Just to be a good person.
 

Mr_rogers

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JLW said:
I would ask her if she was okay, but not with the intention of getting a number. Just to be a good person.
Yeah, exactly. I think some people need to remember that as odd as they are, women are still people.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mr_rogers said:
Yeah, exactly. I think some people need to remember that as odd as they are, women are still people.
exactly. I would always ask the girl (or guy) if they were okay. let's not forget some basic human kindness in the midst of all this C+F/neg-hit/flaking/LJBF/KFC hocus pocus now..
 

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Berlex said:
neg hit her
I hope you were joking and this did make me laugh out loud. Please dont do this. :box: :box: :box: :box: :box: :box:
 

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musclyjerk said:
"Why are you crying? We all have bad hair days" :rockon:

ooo cold-blooded

lol
 

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You don't have to bang every girl, if she's hurt or you honestly feel you can help her there's no harm in just being a good person.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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oakraiderz2 said:
I wouldnt do anything, and heres why...people more often than not dont open up to people they dont feel comfortable opening up to, let alone strangers. Are you gonna get a girls number whos balling her eyes out? I doubt it. That would be more than awkward. Not to mention the off chance of you getting her number, her association of you to the mood she was previously in. Thats why you dont hit on girls you first meet if theyre in a bad mood. Association emotions to people has a strong effect. Unless youre good at what you do (youre not...at this point in time), i wouldnt suggest it. But hey, what the fvck do i know.
QFT. It's none of your business, stay out. She wouldn't tell you why, and on the off chance you did form a relationship...you're just seen as someone who cares for all her problems....
 

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yea man a dj should always be kind hearted whether shes around a girl or not. Obviously if shes hot then thats better, if shes not then still talk to her and try to cheer her up so when your girl is down u no wat to do.
 
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