Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ha! and wasn't he making fun of that other guy "Zombie"? j/k you're alright mate, but I can't tell much b/c your in you blasted boxers.Originally posted by DJ20
the problem is that you are not actually very good looking. you are a skinny short guy.
You are just another guy thinking that you have to have a perfect body to attract women. I am tired of seeing a lot of guys way skinner than him getting hot women.Originally posted by Wiesman44
1) You're not THAT great looking. Good looking guy, but nothing mind blowing.
2) You are very scrawny. I bodybuild so I can tell you are ripped, but ripped with no muscle. Who cares how ripped u are if you are skin and bones.
Girls usually (But not always) like guys that have some muscle on them, b/c its a feeling of security for them.
Bulk up like 20 lbs, and I'm sure you'll have more success.
3) You seem kinda short. I could be wrong though. You look about 5'9. Height helps a LOT. I know all the short guys are going to go nuts for that statement, but let me just say that it HELPS, its not the be all and end all. Just means you probably won't be getting girls approach you.
4) Why would u want girls approaching u ? You wont get any hot girls, just mainly the desperate ones I'd think, b/c thats the type of girl that approaches me and I have a better physique than u and roughly the same in looks wise.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.