"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Very good looking - but they don't approach me
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
Ha! and wasn't he making fun of that other guy "Zombie"? j/k you're alright mate, but I can't tell much b/c your in you blasted boxers.
Do you dress good? You look like you could pull off the preppy/ frat boy look well. That would just give off an aura of confidence.
Blue Phoenix
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You are just another guy thinking that you have to have a perfect body to attract women. I am tired of seeing a lot of guys way skinner than him getting hot women.
The problem is the attitude which is the same issue I have. Some girls tell i am cute and are attracted to me even being what you call "skinny". By the way, some girls are intimidated by big guys. Being too big can backfire.
Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
I think most people would agree with me on this one: the guy needs to approach/initiate the contact
It's just like sitting on your a** and waiting for the companies to come and recruit you when YOU are looking for a job, "because I'm such a talented person and I have so many great degrees/qualifications and I went to a big name school and had great grades in a great major...".
How about sending out your résumé and starting some applications?
The same thing with the ladies...
SELF-MASTERY
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I've also been noticing averaging looking guys with hotties. Did the stars allign on dec. 31 at 11:59 pm or is game a requsite for approaching women?
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.