"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Very good looking - but they don't approach me
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
Ha! and wasn't he making fun of that other guy "Zombie"? j/k you're alright mate, but I can't tell much b/c your in you blasted boxers.
Do you dress good? You look like you could pull off the preppy/ frat boy look well. That would just give off an aura of confidence.
Blue Phoenix
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You are just another guy thinking that you have to have a perfect body to attract women. I am tired of seeing a lot of guys way skinner than him getting hot women.
The problem is the attitude which is the same issue I have. Some girls tell i am cute and are attracted to me even being what you call "skinny". By the way, some girls are intimidated by big guys. Being too big can backfire.
Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
I think most people would agree with me on this one: the guy needs to approach/initiate the contact
It's just like sitting on your a** and waiting for the companies to come and recruit you when YOU are looking for a job, "because I'm such a talented person and I have so many great degrees/qualifications and I went to a big name school and had great grades in a great major...".
How about sending out your résumé and starting some applications?
The same thing with the ladies...
SELF-MASTERY
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I've also been noticing averaging looking guys with hotties. Did the stars allign on dec. 31 at 11:59 pm or is game a requsite for approaching women?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.