"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Verbalizing non-romantic feelings

benjiprice

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So while I agree that one shouldn't verbalize romantic feeling and try to discuss a relationship with a girl in a "logical" way, I wonder what you guys think about verbalising non-romantic feelings.

I'm meeting up with my ex tomorrow. She broke up with me a couple weeks ago, after we got back together two times when I broke up with her (at 2 different times). I certainly still like her, and she know it. I'm moving on, but I'm still very connected to her and was thinking of sharing things that have occurred within me at a personal level this summer. I feel I've grown on a lot of aspects of myself and even though I've always been a very confident person, I feel I've reached a new level; I feel I'm in a new zone. Everything I want to say is framed positively and it doesn't involve explicitly downplaying my past self.

These developments don't affect us directly, but I'm wondering if by verbalising them it might look like I'm trying to qualify myself. I don't want it to look like I'm trying to sell myself to her.

Should I just keep my mouth shut and have a good time or would you talk about this stuff? Given our history I wouldn't be surprised if we got back together in the future or became FBs (we've been that before too). So while I don't need her to be happy and get layed, I don't want to totally kill the attraction between us.

Thoughts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

joekerr31

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if you were genuinely happy and content with your life you wouldn't care what she would think and would nto bring it up.

you still see her as the prize. and your desire to disclose things IS 100% targeted at raising her interest level.

you may be in a new zone,b ut you are NOT in yet in the zone where you see yourself as the prize.
 

benjiprice

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joekerr31 said:
if you were genuinely happy and content with your life you wouldn't care what she would think and would nto bring it up.

you still see her as the prize. and your desire to disclose things IS 100% targeted at raising her interest level.

you may be in a new zone,b ut you are NOT in yet in the zone where you see yourself as the prize.
Great response. Spot on.

Thanks
 
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