"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Verbalizing non-romantic feelings

benjiprice

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So while I agree that one shouldn't verbalize romantic feeling and try to discuss a relationship with a girl in a "logical" way, I wonder what you guys think about verbalising non-romantic feelings.

I'm meeting up with my ex tomorrow. She broke up with me a couple weeks ago, after we got back together two times when I broke up with her (at 2 different times). I certainly still like her, and she know it. I'm moving on, but I'm still very connected to her and was thinking of sharing things that have occurred within me at a personal level this summer. I feel I've grown on a lot of aspects of myself and even though I've always been a very confident person, I feel I've reached a new level; I feel I'm in a new zone. Everything I want to say is framed positively and it doesn't involve explicitly downplaying my past self.

These developments don't affect us directly, but I'm wondering if by verbalising them it might look like I'm trying to qualify myself. I don't want it to look like I'm trying to sell myself to her.

Should I just keep my mouth shut and have a good time or would you talk about this stuff? Given our history I wouldn't be surprised if we got back together in the future or became FBs (we've been that before too). So while I don't need her to be happy and get layed, I don't want to totally kill the attraction between us.

Thoughts?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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joekerr31

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if you were genuinely happy and content with your life you wouldn't care what she would think and would nto bring it up.

you still see her as the prize. and your desire to disclose things IS 100% targeted at raising her interest level.

you may be in a new zone,b ut you are NOT in yet in the zone where you see yourself as the prize.
 

benjiprice

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joekerr31 said:
if you were genuinely happy and content with your life you wouldn't care what she would think and would nto bring it up.

you still see her as the prize. and your desire to disclose things IS 100% targeted at raising her interest level.

you may be in a new zone,b ut you are NOT in yet in the zone where you see yourself as the prize.
Great response. Spot on.

Thanks
 
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