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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

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Vasectomy and SMV

FMCSMT

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ive kinda wondered lately if not being able to reproduce has lowered my smv.

I would think the obvious answer is yes.

I also wonder if this is something I should hide?

What are your thoughts?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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narcissist

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ive kinda wondered lately if not being able to reproduce has lowered my smv.

I would think the obvious answer is yes.

I also wonder if this is something I should hide?

What are your thoughts?
why even say anything about it. Its not hiding it, its just not saying it. If the girl asks you if you have had a vasectomy then tell em the truth, but I have never in my life ever had a girl ask me that. So just don't say anything. It is only lowering your SMV if you are blatantly and overtly making a point about it, even if they don't ask. which is kinda weird.
 

sazc

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You need to tell her about this in two instances.

If you are about to get it on and she asks of you have a condom/or hands you one AND you already know you would bare back this chick. Then offer to go without one letting her know that there is no risk of pregnancy.

The other time is of she brings up wanting kids and/or asks you of you want to have kids. Tell her then.

Or if she asks directly, but that rarely happens without some sort of indication.

Otherwise there's no other social reason for it to be discussed, unless you just like putting it out there.

As far as lowering your SMV, if she does not want to have kids then it makes you more attractive.
 

The Duke

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I've found that it raises my SMV when I mention it(as long as she doesn't want kids). Several get excited about it. I think its the fantasy of having a guy explode inside of them and not having to worry about getting pregnant! :D:p:D
 

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It makes them want to fvck like crazy animals. They don't have to worry about pills, condoms, etc. They also know that reversals exist should they want kids.

So the answer is no, it doesn't lower your SMV.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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