"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Vasectomy and SMV
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
why even say anything about it. Its not hiding it, its just not saying it. If the girl asks you if you have had a vasectomy then tell em the truth, but I have never in my life ever had a girl ask me that. So just don't say anything. It is only lowering your SMV if you are blatantly and overtly making a point about it, even if they don't ask. which is kinda weird.
sazc
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If you are about to get it on and she asks of you have a condom/or hands you one AND you already know you would bare back this chick. Then offer to go without one letting her know that there is no risk of pregnancy.
The other time is of she brings up wanting kids and/or asks you of you want to have kids. Tell her then.
Or if she asks directly, but that rarely happens without some sort of indication.
Otherwise there's no other social reason for it to be discussed, unless you just like putting it out there.
As far as lowering your SMV, if she does not want to have kids then it makes you more attractive.
The Duke
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.